10 COMMANDMENTS FOR WOMEN...

 10 COMMANDMENTS FOR WOMEN...

1. Don't be in a hurry to move out of your parents house.

2. Don't wait for a man before you start living. You can live a fulfilled life as a single woman.

3. Stay away from alcohol. It has killed others and you are not special.

4. Don't entertain night calls from strangers. It's not the right way to find a lover.

5. Develop a healthy eating habit.

Always take breakfast and avoid sweets.

6. Dress well: Impression count.

People will judge you by the way you dress even before they talk to you.

7. Don't use sex as proof of love. Sex is no proof of love, he'll leave you after the sex.

8. Don't marry for the money, else you'll become one of his possessions.

9. Add value to yourself- get a career. Don't be fooled that a man will solve all your problems.

10. Beauty is not everything. If it is all you have, you'll lose your place to someone beautiful, better more matured and competent than you.

UNDERSTANDING YOUR MAN

 UNDERSTANDING YOUR MAN...

Men are the simplest specie I've ever handled in my life. No man is difficult, ignorance is what makes it difficult. If you want men to fall in love with you and your fiance/husband to treat you like the greatest treasure on earth, you must understand what makes a man a man, the right buttons to click and how to enjoy a sweet, blissful, heaven on earth marriage with him!

1. MEN HAVE FIRST LOVE they are passionate about it and that is his work. A man must succeed. Not making progress in life is like being impotent, he feels castrated! You must understand this and give him space to succeed. This requires time, efforts, focus, sleepless nights. To demand he spend all his waking hours watching romantic movie with you is to turn him to a perpetual failure! Idle ladies who have nothing sensible doing with their lives except disturb their fiance at work per minute, per second to fill their empty life are a big turn off!

2. MEN HAVE EGO: he needs it to be the head of his home and succeed. You must distinguish between ego and pride. A man with a healthy ego will listen to you but firmly and lovingly let you know his final decision. A man with pride won't listen to you at all, snob you and treat you like trash!

A man with a healthy ego is not a dummy! Some women expect their men to take all their advice and follow all their instruction, that's not possible! He can't take everything. He will take the ones that makes sense and put aside the ones that will land you in trouble.

He is the head. You can't force your ideas on him, you can only advise, the final decision lies in his hand, shikennah!

3. MEN ARE MOVED BY SIGHT: it's so amazing so many ladies are ignorant of this. Look, if you don't want that guy to have sex with you, COVER UP whenever you are with him. I don't understand how a sane Christian sister will go to her fiance's house with a mini skirt and your laps thrown apart right in front of him! You also wore a low neckline and each time you bend, your big mammalian glands are staring menacingly at him and you tell him not to...not to do what? I pity men honestly, the temptation they face daily, only the God of heaven Himself understands because women are refusing to understand!

In marriage, you must deliberately make your husband chase you around for sex, just one look at some wives, all the sexual desire the husband has flies right through the window! Stinking mouth, bushy armpit, torn underwear, ragged pant, smelling wrapper, etc, etc. Yet the man is surrounded by sweet smelling, well dressed, tantalizing, head swooning babes at work! You must keep packaging and re-packaging! Get transparent bra that pushes the central focus forward, jaw dropping lingerie, sex triggering perfumes and blow his imagination off as often as you can (this is strictly for the married).

4. MEN WANT PEACE OF MIND: Nagging, criticizing, shouting, yelling, abusing and cursing can destabilize a man, you should minimize it as much as possible in fact, stop it all together.

Some men hate coming home early because the troublesome wife will nag life out of him till late in the night! Once he wakes up, she repeats the cycle till he leaves home! Men like that usually end up with mistresses or second wives! Men run towards women who give them peace not shatter them to pieces!

5. MEN LIKE QUALITY FOOD: unless he didn't give you enough money or he likes it, concoction rice with ground pepper, onions, coconut oil and maggi is an insult to him! Watery stew that drops to his elbow while eating is a big bomb on his head! Egusi soup that looks as if garri is sprinkled over a pot of water is a big slap on his face! His money should reflect what you cook please! Maximize what you have, treat him like a king!

6. MEN LOVE TO BE PRAISED: candidly, I love praising men, praise of man is my natural territory! When I noticed it almost landed me in trouble as men kept giving the chase, I stopped it all together and focus on my husband.

If you are a man-praiser, you will never lack a man's love all your life! You will be pampered, loved and cherished! I've never met a single man who does not respond to praise!

Stingy, selfish, bitterly critical women who see nothing good in their men never have lasting marriages! Praise your husband silly! Appreciate his efforts in your life. Look out for his good qualities and his song in his ears daily!

I love praising my husband, it gives me deep pleasure doing so, he sure deserves it and he enjoys listening to it.

7. RESPECT HIM: Ladies who shout at their fiance, order him around and disgrace him in public because she has a masters degree in international marketing will stay a long long time as single before she finds an old man to marry! You must be humble if you want to be under any man's roof! Respect is the food of every man. Learn to respect your fiance, show honour to your husband. Saying "yes sir" when appropriate won't make you less of a woman! Learn how to talk to a man. Some women just don't know how to talk! Never correct him in public, don't send him on errand in front of his friends, stop making jest of him in front of the children, it's bad!!!

8. SUBMIT TO HIM: God states it clearly, "wives, submit to your husbands." Submit your body and other things when he needs them. If you have any trouble with that, ask God, not me. Why was Abraham madly in love with Sarah? She didn't allow her exceptional beauty make her proud, she was a very submissive, respectful wife who called her husband "Lord."

9. SUPPORT: Men want women who can support whenever they need help. That is why lots of men are having affairs with colleagues at work because the colleague is eager to help when he needs it most while the one at home left him to handle his problems by himself. Why then did he get married? What is her role in his life as a HELPER?

10. MEN GO THROUGH SEASONS: the season of little, the season of managing, the season of abundance! No man wants a gold digger who runs away when he has challenges only to show up when he has made it and has millions flowing in his account!

Men are not difficult at all. These and more are what makes a man tick, thrive and enjoy the woman he has vowed to spend the rest of his life with. Can you he that kind of woman?

Do you have what it takes to make your husband happy and fulfilled? Think about it.

THE BENEFITS OF MAKING LOVE IN THE MORNING

THE BENEFITS OF MAKING LOVE IN THE MORNING...

1. IT MAKES GOOD USE OF THE MAN'S ERECTION 

Most men wake up with an erection, it is good for this hardness not to go to waste

2. IT BOOSTS THE WIFE'S SELF-ESTEEM 

When a woman wakes up naked to her husband admiring her, desiring her and wanting her; she ends up feeling sexy, beautiful and confident even before she dresses up

3. IT STARTS THE DAY RIGHT WITH INTIMACY 

The best way to say good morning is with intimacy. Sweet love making, kisses, heartfelt words and prayer

4. IT BRINGS OUT A GLOW

When both the man and the woman feel loved up, they exude an inner positive vibe that others around them pick

5. IT GIVES YOU SOMETHING TO SMILE ABOUT THE WHOLE DAY

Through out the day, both of them will find each other smiling, reminiscing about the morning. Maybe they will even text or call each other just to connect 

6. IT MAKES STAYING FAITHFUL EASIER 

When your body is sexually satisfied in the morning, it is difficult to fall into temptation in the middle of the day. Unfaithfulness breeds where there is a vacuum

7. IT WAKES YOU UP PROPERLY 

If you are sleepy or struggling to wake up, some good pumping, grinding, moaning, riding and touching will definitely wake you up

8. IT BLESSES THE CHILDREN

Because there is warmth in the bedroom in love making, that warmth will spread to the entire house with the children witnessing the love between mom and dad

9. IT CELEBRATES LOVE IN A NEW DAY

No matter how good or bad yesterday was, an episode of sweet love making sets the right tone today

10. IT MAKES YOU LOOK FORWARD TO COMING HOME 

Since the day started in a memorable way, both husband and wife will miss each other and will long to see each other later in the day. 

11. It reduces stress, headache, cramps, slimming tablet as well and brings out the better you in the relashionship.

21 Habits That Turn a Boy into a Man

 21 Habits That Turn a Boy into a Man...

1. **Responsibility**:

Take responsibility for your actions and own up to your mistakes.

2. **Respect**:

Show respect for yourself and others, including those who are different from you.

3. **Honesty**:

Be truthful in your words and actions.

4. **Empathy**:

Try to understand and relate to the emotions and experiences of others.

5. **Self-Control**:

Practice self-control and resist negative impulses.

6. **Perseverance**:

Keep working hard and don’t give up, even when faced with challenges.

7. **Initiative**:

Take the initiative and be proactive in your goals and responsibilities.

8. **Time Management**:

Use your time wisely and efficiently.

9. **Good Communication**:

Communicate clearly and effectively with others.

10. **Problem-Solving**:

Use critical thinking and problem-solving skills to overcome challenges.

11. **Resourcefulness**:

Utilize your resources and skills effectively to get the job done.

12. **Independence**:

Develop independence and self-reliance.

13. **Interdependence**:

Recognize the importance of teamwork and relying on others.

14. **Creativity**:

Use your creativity and imagination to come up with new ideas and solutions.

15. **Adaptability**:

Be flexible and able to adapt to change.

16. **Leadership**:

Develop leadership skills and the ability to inspire and guide others.

17. **Emotional Intelligence**:

Develop your emotional intelligence and the ability to understand and manage your own emotions and those of others.

18. **Confidence**:

Believe in yourself and your abilities.

19. **Courage**:

Be brave and stand up for what you believe in.

20. **Humility**:

Be humble and open to learning and growth.

21. **Gratitude**:

Practice gratitude and appreciate what you have.

Always remember 

‘When life breaks you, it is because you are ready to be put back together differently. 

Every piece of you that feels shattered is a piece that will find a new place, a new purpose, a new meaning. 

Trust that the cracks are where the light gets in. And sometimes, in our brokenness, we find our greatest wholeness. 

We find the courage to rebuild, to reimagine, to redefine what it means to be strong.

RULES TO A HAPPY & SMART LIFE

 RULES TO A HAPPY & SMART LIFE...

1. Talking is helpful, but listening is healing.  

2. Planning is smart, but executing is crucial.  

3. Kindness is nice, but consistency is powerful.  

4. Smiling is charming, but sincerity is lasting.  

5. Advice is free, but wisdom is rare.  

6. Attention is flattering, but intention is real.  

7. Presence is lovely, but participation is deeper.  

8. Love is beautiful, but respect is essential.  

9. Apology is needed, but change is proof.  

10. Words are powerful, but actions are louder.  

11. Support is sweet, but sacrifice is love.  

12. Ideas are exciting, but follow-through is gold.  

13. Motivation is important, but discipline is key.  

14. Ambition is fire, but patience is fuel.  

15. Passion is strong, but purpose is steady.  

16. Dreams are inspiring, but effort is required.  

17. Compliments are good, but character is better.  

18. Promises are pretty, but keeping them is rare.  

19. Peace is wanted, but understanding brings it.  

20. Expression is needed, but comprehension is vital.

1. Speak less and listen more. And when you have something to say, mean it and people will be eager to hear you talk.

2. Never argue with people on subjects like religion, politics, and controversies. You can just agree with them or ignore them and go away. If you wish to argue with them on those subjects, they will drag you to mud.

3. Think before you speak. Rushing to say something without thinking about it first can result in saying something you will regret later.

4. Be humble and polite to others. No matter how they treat you. In the future, they will regret it.

5. Control your emotions. You need to keep their emotions at the backseat while letting logic drive the car.

6. Do not reveal your next move to anyone. No one can attack what they don’t known.

7. Don't speak about yourself. Resist shifting the focus to you.

8. Always make eye contact and be confident while talking to others. Maintain eye contact for 50 percent of the time while speaking and 70% of the time while listening.

9. Don't ever try to copy someone. Be unique.

10. Do not start something you cannot offer full dedication.

11. Silence is the best answer to h@ters. Stop feeding them with the attention they need.

12. Train yourself for the ability to come up with great opinions. Be very analytical and this will help you see things differently. Have the reasons why you do things the way you do. Be free to see things in your own unique way.

13. Don't follow the mob/crowd blindly. Always take decisions based on facts and logic. Be bold enough to choose your path.

14. Avoid the dramas of the world. When it comes to drama and manipulation, avoid it like a plague.

15. Don't hesitate to ask meaningful questions. It shows that you are paying attention as well as being interested in the conversation.

16. Don't be always available for others. Always available equals to easily abvsed.

17. Keep yourself engaged in something. Be Dynamic. Never try to remain the same and become forever revolving.

जब कोई इंसान प्रेम में होता है...

जब कोई इंसान प्रेम में होता है,

तो उसका हृदय सबसे निर्मल, पवित्र और सच्चा होता है।

उसके भीतर न कोई चाल होती है, न कोई कपट

बस एक निस्वार्थ समर्पण, जो बिना शर्त तुम्हें चुनता है।

कभी गौर से देखना उसकी आँखों में

वहाँ तुम्हारे लिए छिपा नहीं,

झलकता हुआ प्रेम होता है।

उसकी बातें किसी और से शुरू नहीं होतीं,

और किसी और पर खत्म भी नहीं होतीं—

वो हर बार तुम पर आकर ही ठहर जाती हैं।

फिर भी…

आप उस इंसान को इस हद तक कैसे तोड़ देते हैं?

धोखा देते वक़्त क्या एक पल को भी

उस भरोसे का ख्याल नहीं आता

जो उसने पूरी ईमानदारी से

आपके हाथों में रख दिया था?

चाहे वो लड़का हो या लड़की

दर्द का लिंग नहीं होता।

जब छल का पर्दा गिरता है,

तो सिर्फ रिश्ता नहीं टूटता,

वो इंसान खुद पर भरोसा करना भी भूल जाता है।

उसे सबसे ज़्यादा चोट इस बात की नहीं लगती

कि उसके साथ गलत हुआ,

बल्कि इस बात की लगती है कि

उसने गलत इंसान पर

पूरे मन से विश्वास किया था।

याद रखना....

हर चीज़ का एक अंत होता है।

और जब प्रेम के साथ छल का अंत होता है,

तो सामने वाला टूटता नहीं है…

वो चुप हो जाता है।

और किसी इंसान की चुप्पी

उसकी सबसे गहरी चीख़ होती है।

आयुर्वेद टिप्स फॉर हेल्थ...

 🌼🕉️ 🙏 आयुर्वेद दोहे 🙏 🕉️🌼

पानी में गुड डालिए, बीत जाए जब रात!

सुबह छानकर पीजिए, अच्छे हों हालात!!

*धनिया की पत्ती मसल, बूंद नैन में डार!*

दुखती अँखियां ठीक हों, पल लागे दो-चार!!

*ऊर्जा मिलती है बहुत, पिएं गुनगुना नीर!*

कब्ज खतम हो पेट की, मिट जाए हर पीर!!

*प्रातः काल पानी पिएं, घूंट-घूंट कर आप!*

बस दो-तीन गिलास है, हर औषधि का बाप!!

*ठंडा पानी पियो मत, करता क्रूर प्रहार!*

करे हाजमे का सदा, ये तो बंटाढार!!

*भोजन करें धरती पर, अल्थी पल्थी मार!*

चबा-चबा कर खाइए, वैद्य न झांकें द्वार!!

*प्रातः काल फल रस लो, दुपहर लस्सी-छांस!*

सदा रात में दूध पी, सभी रोग का नाश!!

*प्रातः- दोपहर लीजिये, जब नियमित आहार!* 

तीस मिनट की नींद लो, रोग न आवें द्वार!!

*भोजन करके रात में, घूमें कदम हजार!*

डाक्टर, ओझा, वैद्य का , लुट जाए व्यापार !!

*घूट-घूट पानी पियो, रह तनाव से दूर!*

एसिडिटी, या मोटापा, होवें चकनाचूर!!

*अर्थराइज या हार्निया, अपेंडिक्स का त्रास!*

पानी पीजै बैठकर, कभी न आवें पास!!

*रक्तचाप बढने लगे, तब मत सोचो भाय!*

सौगंध राम की खाइ के, तुरत छोड दो चाय!!

*सुबह खाइये कुवंर-सा, दुपहर यथा नरेश!*

भोजन लीजै रात में, जैसे रंक सुजीत!!

*देर रात तक जागना, रोगों का जंजाल!*

अपच,आंख के रोग सँग, तन भी रहे निढाल^^

*दर्द, घाव, फोडा, चुभन, सूजन, चोट पिराइ!*

बीस मिनट चुंबक धरौ, पिरवा जाइ हेराइ!!

*सत्तर रोगों कोे करे, चूना हमसे दूर!*

दूर करे ये बाझपन, सुस्ती अपच हुजूर!!

*भोजन करके जोहिए, केवल घंटा डेढ!*

पानी इसके बाद पी, ये औषधि का पेड!!

*अलसी, तिल, नारियल, घी सरसों का तेल!*

यही खाइए नहीं तो, हार्ट समझिए फेल!

*पहला स्थान सेंधा नमक, पहाड़ी नमक सु जान!*

श्वेत नमक है सागरी, ये है जहर समान!!

*अल्यूमिन के पात्र का, करता है जो उपयोग!*

आमंत्रित करता सदा, वह अडतालीस रोग!!

*फल या मीठा खाइके, तुरत न पीजै नीर!*

ये सब छोटी आंत में, बनते विषधर तीर!!

*चोकर खाने से सदा, बढती तन की शक्ति!*

गेहूँ मोटा पीसिए, दिल में बढे विरक्ति!!

*रोज मुलहठी चूसिए, कफ बाहर आ जाय!*

बने सुरीला कंठ भी, सबको लगत सुहाय!!

*भोजन करके खाइए, सौंफ, गुड, अजवान!*

पत्थर भी पच जायगा, जानै सकल जहान!!

*लौकी का रस पीजिए, चोकर युक्त पिसान!*

तुलसी, गुड, सेंधा नमक, हृदय रोग निदान!

*चैत्र माह में नीम की, पत्ती हर दिन खावे !*

ज्वर, डेंगू या मलेरिया, बारह मील भगावे !!

*सौ वर्षों तक वह जिए, लेते नाक से सांस!*

अल्पकाल जीवें, करें, मुंह से श्वासोच्छ्वास!!

*सितम, गर्म जल से कभी, करिये मत स्नान!*

घट जाता है आत्मबल, नैनन को नुकसान!!

*हृदय रोग से आपको, बचना है श्रीमान!*

सुरा, चाय या कोल्ड्रिंक, का मत करिए पान!!

*अगर नहावें गरम जल, तन-मन हो कमजोर!*

नयन ज्योति कमजोर हो, शक्ति घटे चहुंओर!!

*तुलसी का पत्ता करें, यदि हरदम उपयोग!*

मिट जाते हर उम्र में,तन में सारे रोग।

शारीरिक, मानसिक, और आध्यात्मिक सेक्स...

ओशो के अनुसार, सेक्स के तीन तल होते हैं: शारीरिक, मानसिक, और आध्यात्मिक। आइए, इन तीनों तल को विस्तार से समझते हैं:

*शारीरिक तल*

शारीरिक तल पर, सेक्स एक प्राकृतिक क्रिया है जो दो लोगों के बीच शारीरिक आकर्षण और आनंद के लिए होती है। यह एक बुनियादी आवश्यकता है जो प्रजनन के लिए भी आवश्यक है। लेकिन ओशो कहते हैं कि अगर सेक्स सिर्फ शारीरिक तल पर रह जाए, तो यह एक अधूरी और असंतुष्ट करने वाली क्रिया बन जाती है।

*मानसिक तल*

मानसिक तल पर, सेक्स एक भावनात्मक और मानसिक जुड़ाव है जो दो लोगों के बीच होता है। इसमें प्रेम, आकर्षण, और भावनाएं शामिल होती हैं। ओशो कहते हैं कि जब सेक्स मानसिक तल पर पहुंचता है, तो यह एक गहरा और अर्थपूर्ण अनुभव बन जाता है। इसमें दो लोग एक दूसरे के साथ जुड़ते हैं और एक दूसरे को समझते हैं।

*आध्यात्मिक तल*

आध्यात्मिक तल पर, सेक्स एक दिव्य और आत्मिक अनुभव है जो दो लोगों के बीच होता है। इसमें दो लोग अपने आप को एक दूसरे में विलीन कर देते हैं और एक उच्चतर चेतना का अनुभव करते हैं। ओशो कहते हैं कि जब सेक्स आध्यात्मिक तल पर पहुंचता है, तो यह एक समाधि का अनुभव बन जाता है, जहां दो लोग एक हो जाते हैं और अपने आप को परमात्मा में विलीन कर देते हैं।

ओशो के अनुसार, सेक्स के इन तीनों तलों को समझने और अनुभव करने से ही हम एक पूर्ण और संतुष्ट जीवन जी सकते हैं। 

ओशो के अनुसार, काम की ऊर्जा एक शक्तिशाली ऊर्जा है जो हमारे भीतर होती है। जब यह ऊर्जा रूपांतरित होती है, तो यह प्रेम की अभिव्यक्ति बन जाती है। 😊

ओशो कहते हैं कि काम की ऊर्जा एक मूल ऊर्जा है जो हमें जीवन की ओर ले जाती है। लेकिन जब हम इसे दबाते हैं या इसे गलत तरीके से इस्तेमाल करते हैं, तो यह ऊर्जा नकारात्मक रूप ले लेती है। लेकिन जब हम इसे सही तरीके से रूपांतरित करते हैं, तो यह ऊर्जा प्रेम, करुणा, और आनंद की ओर ले जाती है।

ओशो के अनुसार, काम की ऊर्जा को रूपांतरित करने के लिए हमें अपने आप को समझना होगा, अपने आप को स्वीकार करना होगा, और अपने आप को प्रेम करना होगा। जब हम ऐसा करते हैं, तो हमारी काम की ऊर्जा प्रेम की ऊर्जा में बदल जाती है, और हम दूसरों के प्रति प्रेम और करुणा महसूस करने लगते हैं।

उन्होंने यह भी कहा है कि काम की ऊर्जा को रूपांतरित करने के लिए हमें अपने भीतर की ऊर्जा को जागरूकता से संभालना होगा। हमें अपनी ऊर्जा को दबाने की बजाय, इसे स्वीकार करना होगा और इसे सही दिशा में ले जाना होगा।

ओशो के विचारों को संक्षेप में कहें तो, काम की ऊर्जा एक शक्तिशाली ऊर्जा है जो प्रेम की अभिव्यक्ति बन सकती है, अगर हम इसे सही तरीके से रूपांतरित करें। 

प्रेम, भय और नियंत्रण...

 "प्रेम, भय और नियंत्रण: स्त्री-पुरुष के भीतर छिपी असुरक्षाएँ"

मनुष्य का जीवन केवल बाहर की दुनिया में घटने वाली घटनाओं से नहीं बनता, बल्कि भीतर चलने वाले संघर्षों से आकार लेता है। प्रेम, विश्वास और समर्पण जैसे शब्द जितने सुंदर लगते हैं, उतने ही जटिल भी हैं। इन्हीं भावनाओं के भीतर कहीं न कहीं भय, असुरक्षा और खो देने की आशंका छिपी रहती है चाहे वह स्त्री का मन हो या पुरुष का।

स्त्री का प्रेम अक्सर पूर्ण समर्पण चाहता है। वह जिसे प्रेम करती है, उसमें अपनी पहचान ढूँढने लगती है। यही उसका सबसे बड़ा बल भी है और सबसे बड़ी कमजोरी भी। जब उसका सारा संसार एक व्यक्ति, एक विचार या एक उद्देश्य के इर्द-गिर्द सिमट जाता है, तब उसके भीतर यह डर जन्म लेने लगता है कि कहीं यह सब छिन न जाए। यही भय उसे नियंत्रक बना सकता है, कठोर बना सकता है, और कभी-कभी ऐसे निर्णयों की ओर धकेल देता है जिनका वह स्वयं अनुमान नहीं कर पाती।

वहीं पुरुष का प्रेम अक्सर स्वतंत्रता से जुड़ा होता है। वह चाहता है कि उसे समझा जाए, पर बाँधा न जाए। उसकी सबसे गहरी आशंका यह होती है कि कहीं प्रेम उसकी गति, उसकी सोच और उसके विस्तार को सीमित न कर दे। जब उसे लगता है कि कोई उसके चारों ओर घेरा बना रहा है, तब वह धीरे-धीरे पीछे हटने लगता है। वह खुलकर संघर्ष नहीं करता, बल्कि चुप्पी, दूरी और अंततः त्याग का रास्ता चुन लेता है।

यहीं से दोनों के बीच का असंतुलन शुरू होता है। स्त्री जितना पास आती है, पुरुष उतना दूर जाने लगता है। स्त्री इस दूरी को अपने अस्तित्व के लिए खतरा मानती है और उसे भरने के लिए और अधिक प्रयास करती है। पुरुष उस प्रयास को दबाव समझने लगता है। यह टकराव प्रेम का नहीं, बल्कि दोनों की छिपी असुरक्षाओं का होता है।

स्त्री की आशंका यह होती है कि यदि उसने सब कुछ नहीं थामा, तो सब कुछ बिखर जाएगा। पुरुष की आशंका यह होती है कि यदि वह रुक गया, तो वह स्वयं को खो देगा। दोनों अपने-अपने डर से संचालित होते हैं, और यही डर प्रेम को धीरे-धीरे सत्ता, नियंत्रण और अपेक्षाओं के खेल में बदल देता है।

सबसे दुखद बात यह है कि जब यह संबंध टूटता है, तो दोनों ही खुद को पीड़ित मानते हैं। स्त्री सोचती है कि उसने सब कुछ दिया फिर भी उसे छोड़ा गया। पुरुष सोचता है कि उससे बहुत कुछ छीन लिया गया। दोनों ही सच होते हैं, और दोनों ही अधूरे।

प्रेम वास्तव में तभी मुक्त करता है, जब उसमें भय न हो। जब स्त्री यह समझ सके कि उसका अस्तित्व किसी एक केंद्र पर निर्भर नहीं है, और पुरुष यह स्वीकार कर सके कि निकटता स्वतंत्रता की शत्रु नहीं होती। जब समर्पण और स्वतंत्रता एक-दूसरे के विरोधी नहीं, बल्कि सहयात्री बन जाएँ।

समस्या प्रेम की नहीं होती, बल्कि उस खालीपन की होती है जिसे हम प्रेम से भरना चाहते हैं। और जब तक मनुष्य अपने भीतर की उस रिक्ति से सामना नहीं करता, तब तक वह हर रिश्ते में उसी भय को दोहराता रहेगा चाहे पात्र बदल जाएँ, चाहे परिस्थितियाँ।

राहुल कुमार झा ✒️✒️

HOW TO KNOW IF THE LOVE IS REAL

 HOW TO KNOW IF THE LOVE IS REAL 

When someone loves you, you know and you will feel it. There will be evidences to attest to it.

Below are some of the evidences...

✅ ATTENTION 

When someone loves you, he or she will give you attention. We give attention to the things that we love. 

✅ CARE

When someone loves you, they will care about your well-being. Anyone that doesn't care about your welfare does not love you. 

✅ COMMUNICATION 

When someone loves you, they will communicate often with you as much as possible. Hearing the voice of whom you love is a delight. 

✅ GIVING 

The natural outflow of love is giving. When someone loves you, they will give. It doesn't necessarily has to be money but there will be giving. 

✅ SPENDING TIME TOGETHER 

When someone loves you, they will desire and long to spend time with you. When you love someone, you will desire the presence of the person. Anyone that doesn't like spending time with you, may not love you. 

✅ SACRIFICE 

The ultimate prove of love is sacrifice. Love is not self-seeking. Love always spends itself at the expense of the beloved. Someone that is not going out of his way once in a while to make you feel good, may not love you. Love is sacrificial. 

✅ PATIENCE

When someone loves you, they will patient with you. They will be patient with in your weaknesses, down time, etc. 

✅ PROTECTION

When someone loves you, they will try to protect you from harm, they will ensure that you are safe. 

✅ KINDNESS

When someone loves you, they will be kind to you. Love is kind. Harshness is a sign of hatred, resentment or anger not a sign of love. 

✅ VULNERABILITY

When someone loves you, they will vulnerable to you. They will loose their guard, put down their defence, they will dismantle the barricade and they will show you the weak side of them hoping you don't hurt them.

✅ SUPPORT

When someone loves you, they will support you in whatever capacity they can.They will support your dreams and aspirations, they will support you financially, spiritually, emotionally and otherwise.

✅ INVESTMENT

When someone loves you, they will invest in you to make you better than they met you mentally, emotionally, economically etc. Love builds up.

So these are some of the signs that shows someone loves you.

HOW TO CHOOSE A HUSBAND...

HOW TO CHOOSE A HUSBAND...

Choosing a husband is a significant life decision. Here are some guidelines to consider:

*Reflect on Your Values and Priorities*

1. Identify your non-negotiables (e.g., faith, family, integrity)

2. Consider your lifestyle, goals, and aspirations

3. Evaluate your emotional readiness for marriage

*Essential Qualities*

1. Character: integrity, honesty, kindness, empathy

2. Communication: effective listening, expressing thoughts and feelings

3. Emotional Intelligence: self-awareness, emotional regulation

4. Responsibility: reliability, accountability, financial stability

5. Mutual Respect: valuing each other's opinions, feelings, and boundaries

6. Trust: loyalty, faithfulness, transparency

7. Shared Vision: aligned goals, values, and aspirations

*Desirable Traits*

1. Sense of humor and playfulness

2. Intelligence and curiosity

3. Ambition and motivation

4. Emotional support and encouragement

5. Physical attraction and intimacy

6. Shared interests and hobbies

7. Adaptability and resilience

*Red Flags*

1. Dishonesty, manipulation, or deceit

2. Emotional or verbal abuse

3. Lack of accountability or responsibility

4. Incompatibility with your values or lifestyle

5. Unwillingness to communicate or resolve conflicts

6. Disrespect or disregard for boundaries

7. Addiction or substance abuse

*Evaluating Potential Partners*

1. Observe how they treat others (family, friends, strangers)

2. Assess their emotional intelligence and maturity

3. Evaluate their communication style and conflict resolution skills

4. Consider their values, goals, and priorities

5. Reflect on your feelings and intuition

6. Seek input from trusted friends, family, or mentors

*Questions to Ask Yourself*

1. Do I feel seen, heard, and valued?

2. Are our values and goals aligned?

3. Can we communicate effectively?

4. Do we share similar interests and hobbies?

5. How does he handle stress, conflict, or challenges?

6. Is he supportive and encouraging?

7. Do I feel emotionally safe and secure?

*Questions to Ask Him*

1. What are your life goals and aspirations?

2. How do you handle conflict or disagreements?

3. What are your expectations for our relationship?

4. How do you prioritize communication and emotional intimacy?

5. What are your thoughts on [important issues]?

6. How do you manage stress and emotions?

7. What are your expectations for finances and responsibilities?

*Prayer and Reflection*

1. Seek guidance from your faith or spiritual practice

2. Reflect on your feelings, thoughts, and intuition

3. Consider seeking counsel from trusted advisors

*Remember*

1. No one is perfect, but character and values matter

2. Compatibility and communication are key

3. Trust your instincts and prioritize emotional safety

4. Marriage is a journey, not a destination

5. Choose someone who inspires you to grow and become your best self

By considering these guidelines, you can make an informed decision and choose a husband who is compatible with your values, goals, and aspirations.

Unspoken Rules for Men...

Unspoken Rules for Men...

1. Never shake a hand sitting down. Standing up shows respect and engagement. It signifies that you value the person you are meeting and are fully present in the interaction.

2. Protect who is behind you, and respect who is beside you. This emphasizes loyalty and honor. Protecting those behind you means safeguarding your family, friends, and teammates. Respecting those beside you signifies recognizing the equality and value of your peers.

3. Never insult the cooking when you are the guest. Showing gratitude and respect for hospitality is essential. Criticizing the cooking is disrespectful and ungrateful, especially when someone has gone out of their way to host you.

4. Never eat the last piece of something you didn't buy.

This rule underscores courtesy and consideration for others. It demonstrates awareness and respect for shared resources and the contributions of others.

5. Never make the first offer in a negotiation.

Letting the other party make the first offer can provide strategic advantages. It gives you insight into their expectations and can help you negotiate better terms.

6. Don't take credit for work you didn't do.

Integrity in acknowledging others' efforts is crucial. Taking undue credit undermines trust and damages your credibility.

7. Take the blame, and give credit when due.

Owning up to mistakes and recognizing others' contributions builds respect and trust. It shows maturity and leadership.

8. If you are not invited, don't ask to go.

Respecting boundaries and invitations is key to maintaining good social etiquette. It avoids awkward situations and respects the host’s intentions.

9. Always aim for the head. This metaphorical rule can apply to many scenarios, implying that you should strive for excellence and precision in your efforts.

10. Don't beg for a relationship.Self-respect and dignity are important. Desperation can lead to unhealthy dynamics and undervalues your worth.

11. Dress well no matter what the occasion. Good grooming and dressing appropriately show respect for yourself and others. It also boosts confidence and makes a positive impression.

12. Always carry cash.

Being prepared for various situations, including emergencies, is practical. It reflects foresight and responsibility.

13. Listen, nod, and most of all make eye contact. Active listening and non-verbal engagement are crucial for effective communication. They show that you value and are attentive to the speaker.

14. Show restraint in expressing anger, no matter what. Being angry is a waste of energy. Managing anger is vital for maintaining composure and making rational decisions. It prevents regrettable actions and fosters a more positive environment.

15. Whether it's dinner, drinks, or both, avoid placing your phone on the dinner table.

Prioritizing face-to-face interactions over digital distractions shows respect and attentiveness to those present.

16. Never pose with alcohol. Maintaining a responsible image is important. Posing with alcohol can convey unprofessionalism or recklessness.

17. Proper grammar will get you far in life. Leave the foul language for the less educated.

Good communication skills, including proper grammar, enhance your credibility and professionalism. Avoiding foul language shows respect and maturity.

18. Ask more than you answer. Showing interest in others by asking questions fosters better relationships and understanding. It also demonstrates humility and a willingness to learn.

19. You can tell a great deal about a person by their handshake, so make yours strong and firm. A firm handshake conveys confidence and sincerity. It is often the first impression you make, so it’s important to get it right.

20. Speak honestly. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Honesty builds trust and integrity. It involves being truthful and consistent, fostering deeper connections and mutual respect. 

Speaking honestly also means balancing truth with empathy and tact, ensuring that your words are respectful and considerate....

RESPONSIBILITIES OF A FATHER IN A FAMILY

RESPONSIBILITIES OF A FATHER IN A FAMILY:

 PRIMARY RESPONSIBILITIES:

1. Providing financial support

2. Emotional guidance and support

3. Disciplining and setting boundaries

4. Role-modeling values and behavior

5. Protecting and ensuring family safety

EMOTIONAL SUPPORT:

1. Listening and validating feelings

2. Offering comfort and reassurance

3. Encouraging open communication

4. Supporting partner's emotional needs

5. Modeling healthy emotional expression

DISCIPLINE AND GUIDANCE:

1. Setting clear expectations and rules

2. Teaching life skills and values

3. Encouraging responsibility and independence

4. Modeling respectful communication

5. Providing constructive feedback

FINANCIAL PROVISION:

1. Managing household finances

2. Providing for family's basic needs

3. Planning for future financial security

4. Saving for children's education

5. Ensuring family's economic stability

ROLE-MODELING:

1. Demonstrating integrity and honesty

2. Modeling respectful relationships

3. Teaching respect for authority

4. Encouraging physical and mental well-being

5. Embodying values and principles

PARENTING PARTNERSHIP:

1. Co-parenting with mother

2. Sharing childcare responsibilities

3. Collaborating on discipline and guidance

4. Supporting partner's parenting style

5. Maintaining united front in parenting

COMMUNITY INVOLVEMENT:

1. Participating in children's activities

2. Volunteering in community or school

3. Building relationships with neighbors

4. Role-modeling social responsibility

5. Fostering community connections

PERSONAL GROWTH:

1. Pursuing personal interests and hobbies

2. Continuing education and self-improvement

3. Maintaining physical and mental health

4. Setting boundaries and prioritizing self-care

5. Seeking support and resources when needed

INFLUENCING CHILDREN'S DEVELOPMENT:

1. Shaping moral and ethical values

2. Encouraging educational and career goals

3. Modeling healthy relationships

4. Teaching life skills and independence

5. Fostering emotional intelligence

REMEMBER:

1. Fatherhood is a unique and vital role.

2. Emotional support is crucial for family well-being.

3. Partnership with your spouse is essential.

4. Role-modeling values and behavior shapes children's development.

5. Seeking support is a sign of strength.