THINGS THAT CAUSE REGRET AT OLD AGE

 THINGS THAT CAUSE REGRET AT OLD AGE

When younger, we make various choice's without the future in mind. Sometimes those choices bite us in our mid-life. These are some of the things one might regret when they're older.

1. Marrying the wrong person

When you're young, check your motives for marrying. Don't marry to copy your peers, or for social standing or out of pressure. Marry for love and companionship, marry the right person, marry your best friend. For if you marry the wrong person or for the wrong reasons, you will have to put up with that person the rest of your life. Things might get worse between you two; then depression, physical abuse, affairs, pain, shame, court cases, bitterness will define your mid-life years all because you chose the wrong one. Things will get worse when children are involved. Make the right choice of a spouse when you are young.

2. The opportunities you did not seize

When you are younger many doors will open, you will get many chances. Many young people let these opportunities go because of fear, laziness, or pride; yet well younger and with more energy is the best time to start a venture and a name for yourself. Some think the opportunities are too big for them. Take advantage of them or one day when you're older you will want to go back and grab those missed chances.

3. The bridges you burned

When we are younger, we care little for relationships, what most think about is getting money and moving up the ladder of success at all cost. Many use and trample on people to progress, they take relationships for granted, messing up bonds, sleeping with people for personal gain. But these bad actions will catch up with you ahead. When you will realize how empty life is without love and friends. When you will have success but no one around you or no one to trust you.

4.The child you aborted

You are a young lady, you get pregnant and you are scared. You take the aborting option quickly thinking of that moment then. But when you are much older, you will look back and wish you kept that baby. When you will be rich and successful you will wish that child you gave up on would be around to enjoy the fruits of your hard work. Being a single mother doesn't mean you can't make it in life or you can't find a man in future.

5. The child you rejected

Young man, you impregnated a woman, she told you she's pregnant with your child. You rejected her and the baby and ran. But years later when you're 50 something, you will wish you were responsible, you will wish you manned up and became a father to that child. You will see that child excel and become an adult but will have no claim to that grown child who you rejected from the beginning. You will regret being a Dead Beat Dad by choice

 6. The marriage you destroyed

So you get married to your good fiance; the first months in marriage were good but shortly after, with your money and charm, you started having affairs. You became unfaithful. Your spouse begged you to stop, your children started hurting, your marriage was collapsing. One day when you are older, it will hit you how foolish you were to destroy the good marriage you had began to build for mere temporary thrills in affairs that did you no good. You will realize the damage you caused to your children and spouse.

7. The God you disowned

When you are much older you become wiser, God becomes more real as you see life in a more meaningful way. But don't wait to get older to start enjoying a relationship with God. Know God when you are young, build your future with God. Don't be a young rebel who runs back to God when age catches up.

8. The body you messed up

You have only one body to live with all your life. The cigarettes, the alcohol you are abusing, the drugs you are taking, the unhealthy food you're consuming; all that will destroy you slowly. When you are 50 and lifestyle diseases catch up with you, you will wish you took care of your body when younger, that you exercised more; but now the damage is done.

9. The time you wasted

The time you are wasting when younger in worry, wrong relationships, laziness, being a couch potato, giving excuses and pursuing meaningless things; you will never get it back.

10. The dreams and talents you shelved

Are you talented when young; are there things you love to do and you are good at them? Nurture those talents, exploit them, don't give up even if you encounter set backs, don't give up on your dreams. If you give up, when you're older you will look at your peers who stuck to what they love and made it and think to yourself, "That could have been me". Pursue a career, study a course you love. Don't waste years of your life in a field that doesn't fulfill you.

11 The name you defamed

When you are older, a legacy is very important, the value of your name is crucial. You will ask yourself what is your reputation, what are you leaving behind? Your legacy is a sum total of your actions since youthful days. We write our biography by how we live life everyday. When you look back your path and you see the mud you threw at your own name, the shame you attracted and the little value you have added to the world; you will regret.

12. The wealth you threw away

Are you riding on good money during your productive years? Earning good money? Don't throw away that money in clubs, reckless living and wasteful shopping. Invest with that money, widen your revenue stream, make that money work for you and keep it safe to take care of you in your older years. Leave an inheritance for your loved ones so that you will never say "I wish I knew better"

13. The good love that got away

Is there that great person in your life loving you good? Don't push that person away, or else that person will walk out your life and you will never ever find someone that incredible and who connects with you all your life. It will torment you to grow older with thoughts of "What if I was still with that person?"

14 The parents you despised

When younger, it is easy to show contempt to your parents; what do your parent's know? They are old-fashioned, shady and small -minded. But your parents are still your parents whether you agree with them or not, whatever their style. Don't let your parent die or age separated from you, reconcile and make up. When you get older, you will realize why your parents wanted to be close to you. The older you get, the more you see the value. 

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The value of a sister or brother

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To realize

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Ask a newly

Divorced couple.

To realize

The value of four years:

Ask a graduate.

To realize

The value of one year:

Ask a student who

Has failed a final exam.

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The value of nine months:

Ask a mother who gave birth to a stillborn.

To realize

The value of one month:

Ask a mother

Who has given birth to

A premature baby.

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The value of one week:

Ask an editor of a weekly newspaper.

To realize

The value of one minute:

Ask a person

Who has missed the train, bus or plane.

To realize

The value of one second:

Ask a person

Who has survived an accident.

Time waits for no one.

Treasure every moment you have.

THE BEST MARRIAGE ADVICE EVER...

 THE BEST MARRIAGE ADVICE EVER ✨ 

👉Choose to love each other even in those moments when you struggle to like each other. Love is a commitment, not a feeling.

👉Always answer the phone when your husband/wife is calling and when possible, try to keep your phone off when you’re together with your spouse.

👉Make time together a priority. Budget for a consistent date night. Time is the “currency of relationships” so consistently invest time into your marriage.

👉Surround yourself with friends who will strengthen your marriage and remove yourself from people who may tempt you to compromise your character.

👉Make laughter the soundtrack of your marriage. Share moments of joy, and even in the hard times, find reasons to laugh.

👉In every argument, remember that there won’t be a “winner” and a “loser.” You are partners in everything so you’ll either win together or lose together. Work together to find a solution.

👉Remember that a strong marriage rarely has two strong people at the same time. It’s usually a husband and wife taking turns being strong for each other in the moments when the other feels weak. 

👉Prioritize what happens in the bedroom. It takes more than sex to build a strong marriage, but it’s nearly impossible to build a strong marriage without it!

👉Remember that marriage isn’t 50-50, divorce is 50-50. 

✅Marriage has to be 100-100. It’s not splitting everything in half, but both partners giving everything they’ve got!

👉Give your best to each other, not your leftovers after you’ve given your best to everyone else.

👉Learn from other people, but don’t feel the need to compare your life or your marriage to anyone else’s. God’s plan for your life is masterfully unique!

👉Don’t put your marriage on hold while you’re raising your kids or else you’ll end up with an empty nest and an empty marriage.

👉Never keep secrets from each other. Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy.

👉Never lie to each other. Lies break trust and trust is the foundation of a strong marriage.

👉When you’ve made a mistake, admit it and humbly seek forgiveness. You should be quick to say, “I was wrong. I’m sorry. Please forgive me.”

👉When your husband/wife breaks your trust, give them your forgiveness instantly which will promote healing and create the opportunity for trust to be rebuilt. You should be quick to say, “I love you. I forgive you. Let’s move forward.”

👉Be patient with each other. Your spouse is always more important that your schedule.

👉Model the kind of marriage that will make your sons want to grow up to be good husbands and your daughters want to grow up to be good wives.

👉Never talk badly about your spouse to other people or vent about them online. Protect your spouse at all times and in all places.

✅Always wear your wedding ring. It will remind you that you’re always connected to your spouse and it will remind the rest of the world that you’re off limits!

👉Connect into a community of faith. A good place (church/pagoda …) can make a world of difference in your marriage and family.

👉Pray together. Every marriage is stronger with God in the middle of it.

👉When you have to choose between saying nothing or saying something mean to your spouse, say nothing every time!

👉Never consider annulment as an option. Remember that a “perfect marriage” is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other

WORDS FOR YOU

 WORDS FOR YOU

1. Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time." Thomas A. Edison

2. "Out of clutter, find Simplicity. From discord, find Harmony. In the middle of difficulty lies Opportunity." Albert Einstein

3. "With the new day comes new strength and new thoughts." Eleanor Roosevelt

4. "Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence." Helen Keller

5. "Keep your eyes on the stars, and your feet on the ground." Theodore Roosevelt

6. "What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals." Henry David Thoreau

7. "The key is to keep company only with people who uplift you, whose presence calls forth your best." Epictetus

8. "If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain." Maya Angelou

9. "Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible." Tony Robbins

10. "Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do." Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

11. "Determine never to be idle. No person will have occasion to complain of the want of time who never loses any. It is wonderful how much may be done if we are always doing." Thomas Jefferson

12. "Well done is better than well said." Benjamin Franklin

13. "If you start by promising what you don't even have yet, you'll lose your desire to work towards getting it." Paulo Coelho

14. "If you want to conquer fear, don't sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy." Dale Carnegie

15. "Go for it now. The future is promised to no one." Wayne Dyer

16. "The quality of a man's life is in direct proportion to his commitment to excellence, regardless of his chosen field of endeavor." Vince Lombardi

17. "Your talent determines what you can do. Your motivation determines how much you are willing to do. Your attitude determines how well you do it."

𝟏𝟎 lessons from the book 𝐑𝐮𝐥𝐞𝐬 𝐎𝐟 𝐖𝐨𝐫𝐤 

1. Walk Your Talk

Whenever you say something, live by it. Let people know you as a person who does what he says he will do. Always walk your talk. 

2. Have A Plan

No matter what's going on, always have a plan in life. Plan for the year. Plan for the next 2 years. Plan for the next 5 years. And plan for the next 20 years. Have a plan. 

3. Carve A Niche For Yourself 

Create a unique identity with what you do. Make sure you are known for doing something unique. Don’t get involved in what everyone is doing. Do something special. 

4. Learn From Others Mistakes 

A clever man learns from his own mistakes, but a wise man learns from others’ mistakes. Learn from the mistakes of others. Study how others made errors and commit to avoiding them. 

5. Develop The Right Attitude 

Be optimistic. Be positive. Share positivity with your colleagues, your friends and your acquaintance. The right attitude will attract you the right people to your life. 

6. Cultivate a Smile

Smile when it’s getting tough. Smile when it’s hell. Smile no matter what.

And what sort of smile? Friendly, genuine—make sure it extends to your eyes—sincere, frank, honest, open, happy.

7. Be Cool

At work you should retain your cool at all times and, no matter what, never ever lose your dignity. If there’s an office costume party, you can laugh and joke with everyone else, but let them do the dressing up. You remain apart from all that office nonsense.

8. Speak Well

You can keep your regional accent; that’s not the problem. Look at why we speak—it is to communicate, to convey information—rather than how we speak. Speaking well means getting information across clearly and effectively. It doesn’t matter how you speak, but it does matter that you speak clearly

9. Stay Focused On Your Long Term Goals 

You can’t afford to lose sight of your long-term goal for a second. For you there is no time off, no downtime, no lounging around time, no slipups, no mistakes, no accidental deviations from the script. 

You have to become like a master criminal—they lead incredibly law-abiding lives because they can’t risk breaking a tiny law in case it draws attention to themselves and the really big crimes get revealed—and watch what you say and what you do.

10. Know Yourself—Strengths and Weaknesses

If you are going to be a winner, you have to be incredibly objective about yourself. A lot of people can’t do this; they can’t turn the spotlight on themselves objectively enough or brightly enough to see themselves as others see them. And it’s not just how others see us; it’s also how we see ourselves. We all carry a mental image of ourselves—what we look like and sound like, what makes us tick; how we work—but how realistic is this image? 

How to Make Your Life Better:

1. Set Goals:

Define what you want to achieve in life, both short-term and long-term. Clear goals give your life direction and purpose.

2. Read Books:

Knowledge is power. Reading expands your perspective, sharpens your mind, and helps you grow both personally and professionally.

3. Have a Mentor:

A mentor can offer guidance, share valuable experiences, and help you avoid unnecessary mistakes.

4. Invest in Yourself:

Spend time and resources on your personal development—learn new skills, attend workshops, and improve your abilities.

5. Have an Open Mind:

Be willing to consider new ideas and perspectives. Flexibility helps you adapt to change and seize opportunities.

6. Always Be a Learner:

Cultivate a mindset of continuous learning. Stay curious, ask questions, and explore ways to improve daily.

7. Take Care of Your Health:

Your body and mind are your greatest assets. Eat well, exercise regularly, and prioritize mental well-being.

8. Become Financially Literate:

Understand how money works. Budget, save, and invest to secure your future and achieve financial freedom.

9. Have a Plan for Your Future:

Life is unpredictable, but having a plan helps you stay focused and work towards your dreams systematically.

10. Connect with Yourself Spiritually:

Whether through prayer, meditation, or reflection, nurturing your spiritual side can provide clarity, peace, and a sense of purpose.

LIFE LESSON

1. Don’t lend money to your family. Give it.

2. Never shake a hand while sitting down.

3. Stop telling people more than they need to know.

4. Never eat the last piece of something you didn't buy.

5. Don't throw your friend under the bus to impress someone.

6. Never insult the cooking when you are the guest.

7. Don't use the urinal next to an occupied one.

8. Don't take out your phone during a conversation.

9. Never take credit for work you didn't do.

10. Listen, nod, and most of all make eye contact.

11. Don't make fun of your friend in front of his kids.

12. Never let emotions overpower you.

13. Never beg for a relationship.

14. Dress well no matter what the occasion.

15. Never kick a man when he is already down.

IF 𝗬𝗢𝗨 𝗪𝗔𝗡𝗧 𝗔 𝗪𝗜𝗙𝗘, 𝗧𝗛𝗘𝗡 𝗕𝗘 𝗔 𝗛𝗨𝗦𝗕𝗔𝗡𝗗

IF 𝗬𝗢𝗨 𝗪𝗔𝗡𝗧 𝗔 𝗪𝗜𝗙𝗘, 𝗧𝗛𝗘𝗡 𝗕𝗘 𝗔 𝗛𝗨𝗦𝗕𝗔𝗡𝗗

1. If you want your wife to make love to you often, then take care of her heart. You cannot mistreat your wife and hurt her then expect great and frequent sex.

2. If you want your wife to respect you, then you have to do respectable and admirable things. You cannot dishonour her and shame her then expect her to excuse your gross misbehavior with a blanket respect. She can't submit to torture.

3. If you want your wife to feel safe with you and open up to you, then you have to stop emotionally and physically abusing her. You cannot instil fear and wonder why she protects herself from you.

4. If you want your wife to enjoy intimacy with you, then you have to maintain oral and body hygiene. You cannot expect your wife to enjoy kissing you and playing with your penis yet you smell of sweat, you don't shower, don't brush your teeth and smell of cigarette, weed or alcohol.

5. If you want your wife to stop complaining, then you need to stop repeating the same wrongs. She complains because she has to call you out when you do wrong since she believes you can be better.

6. If you want your wife to be financially transparent with you and to stop making financial decisions behind your back, then you need to start showing financial responsibility. As long as you keep being reckless, she will save and invest without your knowledge to protect her future and that of the children.

7. If you want your wife to brag about you to people, then do things that make her proud. She cannot pretend that you are a great man yet you are not.

8. If you want your wife to stop nagging and being moody, then you need to make time to spend with her and make her feel special. A woman nags and becomes grumpy when she feels neglected. A loved up wife glows.

9. If you want your wife to stop fighting your friends, then you need to stop surrounding yourself with the wrong friends and allowing your friends to pull you away from your family. You wife is just protecting you.

10. If you want your wife to be proud to be your wife, then you have to do things that make her say "Yes" to you daily. Don't expect her to be satisfied with the title of wife just because she wears your ring, has a marriage certificate or has your child/children.

11. If you want your wife to help you and support you, then you need to have a vision and share it with her. A woman can only be a helper to a man who knows where he is going and gives her room to build with him.

60 MARRIED MEN TIPS...

 MARRIED MEN...

1. Never have a close relationship with any Lady, single or Married By whatever name, spiritual Daughter, secretary, Colleague, Neighbor, House Maids, Wives of Friends.

2. Never get emotionally attached to any lady other than your own legally married wife.

3. Avoid Celebrating any Woman apart from your Wife, Mother and Daughter on Social Media. Don't send wrong signals to Ladies

4. Always bear in mind that the lady who cheaply offers herself to you will offer herself to anybody and fight you dirty tomorrow.

5. Never take advantage of any Lady who is under you, don't do it, you are in the place of trust, don't destroy your life.

6. Never give financial assistance to any lady at work, in the neighbourhood or anywhere without the consent and cooperation of your wife, this will safe your head in future.

7. Never meet with ladies in lonely places, parked Cars, street corners

8. Never allow your heart to lust after any lady, there is nothing they have that your wife does not have even better with security.

9. Don't eat from ladies who consistently give you cooked food for any reason Remember, food is another way to a man's heart.

10. Put on your Wedding ring always

11. Rebuke indecent dressing and don't tolerate anyone to dress sexily around you, if they see you are Comfortable with it they begin to come for you.

12. If any lady is giving you signs for sex, openly rebuke her. Say no, boldly and calmly

13. Never start any dirty and naughty discussion with any lady. You can't know how far this will take you, be careful carry yourself with dignity.

14. Don't hide any secret from your wife. Be totally open this safe your head.

15. Make your wife your best friend and flaunt her anywhere and anyhow. Put her picture as a screen saver on your Phone, Laptop and tablet.

16. Celebrate your wife's birthday and wedding anniversary lavishly on Social media and everywhere, this will send signals to Girls that you love your wife and not available for them.

17. Never hide your marital status, let them know that you are married.

18. Never use the word I love you for any Female apart from your Wife and Daughter. This can be misinterpreted

19. Always talk about your wife. It chases bad girls who want you away.

20, Your discussions about your Wife should be a positive one, never speak negatively about her or other Women.

21. If you are not enjoying your Marriage please do not share this with any Female, see a Counsellor

22. Cut all contacts with all your Exes and all you’ve had Sex with before Marriage if you don't do you may fall back together again destroying your Marriage and theirs.

23. Profess your love to your wife anywhere.

24. If any lady begins to come too close to you, kindly report to your wife with name, phone number and her details.

25. Be nice to female Colleagues, Church members, Neighbors etc but you must be strict and disciplined when you notice any bad move

26. Always remember that the enjoyment is just 8 Seconds, it cannot be more than that but its repercussion can last a lifetime and even eternity, please don't mortgage your life for a Maximum of Seconds of orgasm.

27. Avoid night parties: Partying encourages sexual immorality if you truly want to be faithful to avoid night Parties.

28. Avoid Alcohol. When you drink alcohol you look at your sense of decency with Women, please avoid Alcohol.

29. Remember sexually transmitted diseases. It's true that sexually transmitted is possible when you don't keep to your Wife, don't destroy your life because of a moment of pleasure.

30. Don't Think CONDOM uses Good CONDUCT: Condom can break, it cannot even protect you from the scandal, shame, reproach, broken trust and the judgement of God, good conduct is what you need, not Condom.

31. Always Remember your vows: you promised to keep to your wife on your wedding day, be a promise keeper, remember your Vow.

32. Avoid night Clubs: Night Clubs are not for Men that want to keep to their Marriage Vows avoid it.

33. No Flirty Jokes: Don't crack flirty jokes with any lady, don't do it.

34. No Hugs: Avoid hugging Women carelessly, don't do it, it's not a show of love, do that through a handshake, hug only your wife.

35. No Shoulder touch: Avoid touching Women on their Shoulder when talking to them. The shoulder is close to the breasts, Shoulder touch is also a sign of assurance of love, only your wife deserves that.

36. No private Meals: Avoid having private Lunch or dinner privately with any Lady apart from your Wife, eating together generates love and feelings, don't start the fire that will consume you.

37. No Car ride: Avoid giving private Car rides with Ladies, except in a group. Spending Hours with a Lady traffic can build affinity that can pull you down.

38. No Secret Chatting: No secret or flirty chat with any Lady.

39. No private Meeting: Never hold any meeting with any Lady that your wife must not know about

40. No Porn: Pornography can never satisfy you, but will destroy your ability to resist Sexual temptation and turn to your dirty secret and your addiction, keeping you busy without taking you anywhere.

41. No code on Phone: Don't put code on your phone to hide it from your wife, if there must be code, your wife must know it if you are a real and faithful man.

42. If you must think sexy think of your wife, avoid Lust and inordinate affection.

43. If you must look at your breasts look at your wife’s. She has the best breasts in the world.

44. If you must look at Bum your wife has it in abundance. Stop looking at the backside of any Lady, you much more than that.

45. Have an accountability Partner: Have somebody you can talk to if you feel tempted

46. Be careful with your Wife’s Friends, some of them want you, don't get too close, don't get too familiar, respect yourself.

47. Beware of your Wife’s House Maid, DONT SLEEP WITH HER!! Don't tolerate a sexy dress from her, no tying of towels around the house, no sleeping carelessly in the living room. If she is getting too hot for you let her go don't pretend, tell your wife.

48. Don't have any Lady’s Number on your phone that your wife does not know who she is

49. Stop Counselling Vulnerable Women about their Marriage or Sex life, you are not a Counsellor, you are not trained for that, you may put yourself in trouble.

50. If you want sex, go back home, get it from your wife.

51. Enjoy hugging your Wife, hold her hands play with her, be very close to her to keep your mind from straying.

52. Increase SDA in your Marriage: SDA is the Secret Display of Affection, use every opportunity to display affection to Your Wife in the secret when it's between just the two of you.

53. Increase FDA in your Marriage: FDA is Family Display Affection. Show love generously to your wife in the presence of your Children, Housemaid and People that live in your house, this will strengthen your Marriage.

54. Increase PDA in your Marriage: PDA is Public Display of Affection, display affection public don't be ashamed of your wife.

55. Date your Wife Regularly: Create time to go out with your Wife on a date, set time for it and grow together.

56. Break unbreakable Bond with your Wife.

57. Don't just be a Husband be a Lover Boy

58. Always count the Cost of Adultery: Lots of Men do look at the pleasure of illicit sex without counting the cost. Count the cost, this is much, Sexually transmitted diseases, Scandals, unwanted Baby, disappointments, satanic affliction, the judgement of God and lots. Count the cost, it's much, very much, outweighs 8 seconds of pleasure.

59. Be careful about your secretary and your Colleague at Work, they are not better than your wife, your wife is by far better than them, don't get too close to them, don't destroy your Marriage.

60. You want a better Bedroom? You want better Sex, you can get it in your Marriage.

27 TIPS OF BEING FAITHFUL.

27 TIPS OF BEING FAITHFUL...

1. Loving your spouse in public and in private

2. Cutting off an ex who is coming to confuse you or disrespect your spouse 

3. Not participating in sexual jokes at the work place that lead to blurred lines

4. Sexting only your spouse and if your spouse is not much of a texter, choosing not to use that as an excuse to send suggestive messages to another 

5. Avoiding to call other people of the opposite gender suggestive names that belong only to your spouse such as "Sweetheart", "Love", "Darling", "Baby"

6. Surrounding yourself with friends who encourage you to be faithful to your spouse and who can tell you off when you start to veer off

7. Looking away when you notice your eyes are desiring another person sexually. Do not feed lust 

8. Choosing not to take care of another person of the opposite gender financially in secret yet neglecting your spouse 

9. Telling off people who come at you to make sexual advances 

10. Making it known that you are married lest anyone thinks you are available 

11. Ignoring or blocking people who still want to flirt with you yet they know you are married 

12. Avoiding your body rubbing on another at the workplace, supermarket or social gatherings; this excitement leads to more longing for body rubbing

13. Bragging about your spouse to someone who is lying to you that they will treat you better than your spouse

14. Stopping the excitement of dressing up sexy to get the attention of a work colleague. This expectation of impressing a special someone will lead to an affair and distract you from impressing your spouse 

15. Avoiding habits such as drinking and excessive parting and activities that tempt you and put you in a compromising situations

16. Unfriending a friend who doesn't respect boundaries

17. Honouring your spouse even when your spouse doesn't know what you are doing or is far from you 

18. Avoiding pornography and masturbating to videos and photos online since this will train your eye to lust after multiple people 

19. Choosing not to send nude photos of yourself to someone who is not your spouse 

20. Choosing not to receive nude photos or videos of people who are trying to seduce you

21. Avoiding phone sex with someone not your spouse. If you phone sex or video call another to talk sexual stuff, your desire for that person will grow 

22. Choosing not to have lengthy intimate chats with another person not your spouse 

23. Choosing not to confide in another your naughty thoughts and sexual fantasies. These secrets belong only to your spouse

24. Choosing not to hold, caress, tightly hug, sensually massage or cuddle up a friend in the name of comfort. Physical intimacy belongs only to your spouse 

25. Avoiding naughty games such as strip poker, truth or dare or kissing games that might cheer you into dishonouring your spouse 

26. Avoiding the lie that you can make out with another person as long as you don't sleep with them

27. Choosing not to give another person more time and attention than you give to your spouse 

Remember: Faithfulness is not only about not having sexual intercourse with another; but also about honouring your spouse with your mind, eyes, ears, words, feelings, time, hands and body...

सपने देखना तथा उनसे प्राप्त होने वाले संभावित फल

 सपने देखना तथा उनसे प्राप्त होने वाले संभावित फल...

1- सांप दिखाई देना- धन लाभ

 2- नदी देखना- सौभाग्य में वृद्धि

3- नाच-गाना देखना- अशुभ समाचार मिलने के योग

4- नीलगाय देखना- भौतिक सुखों की प्राप्ति

5- नेवला देखना- शत्रुभय से मुक्ति

6- पगड़ी देखना- मान-सम्मान में वृद्धि

7- पूजा होते हुए देखना- किसी योजना का लाभ मिलना

8- फकीर को देखना- अत्यधिक शुभ फल

9- गाय का बछड़ा देखना- कोई अच्छी घटना होना

10- वसंत ऋतु देखना- सौभाग्य में वृद्धि

11- स्वयं की बहन को देखना- परिजनों में प्रेम बढऩा

12- बिल्वपत्र देखना- धन-धान्य में वृद्धि

13- भाई को देखना- नए मित्र बनना

14- भीख मांगना- धन हानि होना

15- शहद देखना- जीवन में अनुकूलता

16- स्वयं की मृत्यु देखना- भयंकर रोग से मुक्ति

17- रुद्राक्ष देखना- शुभ समाचार मिलना

18- पैसा दिखाई- देना धन लाभ

19- स्वर्ग देखना- भौतिक सुखों में वृद्धि

20- पत्नी को देखना- दांपत्य में प्रेम बढ़ना

21- स्वस्तिक दिखाई देना- धन लाभ होना

22- हथकड़ी दिखाई देना- भविष्य में भारी संकट

23- मां सरस्वती के दर्शन- बुद्धि में वृद्धि

24- कबूतर दिखाई देना- रोग से छुटकारा

25- कोयल देखना- उत्तम स्वास्थ्य की प्राप्ति

26- अजगर दिखाई देना- व्यापार में हानि

27- कौआ दिखाई देना- बुरी सूचना मिलना

28- छिपकली दिखाई देना- घर में चोरी होना

29- चिडिय़ा दिखाई देना- नौकरी में पदोन्नति

30- तोता दिखाई देना- सौभाग्य में वृद्धि

31- भोजन की थाली देखना- धनहानि के योग

32- इलाइची देखना- मान-सम्मान की प्राप्ति

33- खाली थाली देखना- धन प्राप्ति के योग

34- गुड़ खाते हुए देखना- अच्छा समय आने के संकेत

35- शेर दिखाई देना- शत्रुओं पर विजय

36- हाथी दिखाई देना- ऐेश्वर्य की प्राप्ति

37- कन्या को घर में आते देखना- मां लक्ष्मी की कृपा मिलना

38- सफेद बिल्ली देखना- धन की हानि

39- दूध देती भैंस देखना- उत्तम अन्न लाभ के योग

40- चोंच वाला पक्षी देखना- व्यवसाय में लाभ

41- स्वयं को दिवालिया घोषित करना- व्यवसाय चौपट होना

42- चिडिय़ा को रोते देखता- धन-संपत्ति नष्ट होना

43- चावल देखना- किसी से शत्रुता समाप्त होना

44- चांदी देखना- धन लाभ होना

45- दलदल देखना- चिंताएं बढऩा

46- कैंची देखना- घर में कलह होना

47- सुपारी देखना- रोग से मुक्ति

48- लाठी देखना- यश बढऩा

49- खाली बैलगाड़ी देखना- नुकसान होना

50- खेत में पके गेहूं देखना- धन लाभ होना 

51- किसी रिश्तेदार को देखना- उत्तम समय की शुरुआत

52- तारामंडल देखना- सौभाग्य की वृद्धि

53- ताश देखना- समस्या में वृद्धि

54- तीर दिखाई- देना लक्ष्य की ओर बढऩा

55- सूखी घास देखना- जीवन में समस्या

56- भगवान शिव को देखना- विपत्तियों का नाश

57- त्रिशूल देखना- शत्रुओं से मुक्ति

58- दंपत्ति को देखना- दांपत्य जीवन में अनुकूलता

59- शत्रु देखना- उत्तम धनलाभ

60- दूध देखना- आर्थिक उन्नति

61- धनवान व्यक्ति देखना- धन प्राप्ति के योग

62- दियासलाई जलाना- धन की प्राप्ति

63- सूखा जंगल देखना- परेशानी होना

64- मुर्दा देखना- बीमारी दूर होना

65- आभूषण देखना- कोई कार्य पूर्ण होना

66- जामुन खाना- कोई समस्या दूर होना

67- जुआ खेलना- व्यापार में लाभ

68- धन उधार देना- अत्यधिक धन की प्राप्ति  

69- चंद्रमा देखना- सम्मान मिलना

70- चील देखना- शत्रुओं से हानि

71- फल-फूल खाना- धन लाभ होना

72- सोना मिलना- धन हानि होना

73- शरीर का कोई अंग कटा हुआ देखना- किसी परिजन की मृत्यु के योग

74- कौआ देखना- किसी की मृत्यु का समाचार मिलना

75- धुआं देखना- व्यापार में हानि

76- चश्मा लगाना- ज्ञान में बढ़ोत्तरी

77- भूकंप देखना- संतान को कष्ट

78- रोटी खाना- धन लाभ और राजयोग

79- पेड़ से गिरता हुआ देखना किसी रोग से मृत्यु होना

80- श्मशान में शराब पीना- शीघ्र मृत्यु होना

81- रुई देखना- निरोग होने के योग

82- कुत्ता देखना- पुराने मित्र से मिलन

83- सफेद फूल देखना- किसी समस्या से छुटकारा

84- उल्लू देखना- धन हानि होना

85- सफेद सांप काटना- धन प्राप्ति

86- लाल फूल देखना- भाग्य चमकना

87- नदी का पानी पीना- सरकार से लाभ

88- धनुष पर प्रत्यंचा चढ़ाना- यश में वृद्धि व पदोन्नति

89- कोयला देखना- व्यर्थ विवाद में फंसना

90- जमीन पर बिस्तर लगाना- दीर्घायु और सुख में वृद्धि

91- घर बनाना- प्रसिद्धि मिलना

92- घोड़ा देखना- संकट दूर होना

93- घास का मैदान देखना- धन लाभ के योग

94- दीवार में कील ठोकना- किसी बुजुर्ग व्यक्ति से लाभ

95- दीवार देखना- सम्मान बढऩा

96- बाजार देखना- दरिद्रता दूर होना

97- मृत व्यक्ति को पुकारना- विपत्ति एवं दुख मिलना

98- मृत व्यक्ति से बात करना- मनचाही इच्छा पूरी होना

99- मोती देखना- पुत्री प्राप्ति

100- लोमड़ी देखना- किसी घनिष्ट व्यक्ति से धोखा मिलना

101- गुरु दिखाई देना- सफलता मिलना

 102- गोबर देखना- पशुओं के व्यापार में लाभ

103- देवी के दर्शन करना- रोग से मुक्ति

104- चाबुक दिखाई देना- झगड़ा होना

105- चुनरी दिखाई देना- सौभाग्य की प्राप्ति

106- छुरी दिखना- संकट से मुक्ति

107- बालक दिखाई देना- संतान की वृद्धि

108- बाढ़ देखना- व्यापार में हानि

109- जाल देखना- मुकद्में में हानि

110- जेब काटना- व्यापार में घाटा

111- चेक लिखकर देना- विरासत में धन मिलना 

112- कुएं में पानी देखना- धन लाभ

113- आकाश देखना- पुत्र प्राप्ति

114- अस्त्र-शस्त्र देखना- मुकद्में में हार

115- इंद्रधनुष देखना- उत्तम स्वास्थ्य

116- कब्रिस्तान देखना- समाज में प्रतिष्ठा

117- कमल का फूल देखना- रोग से छुटकारा

118- सुंदर स्त्री देखना- प्रेम में सफलता

119- चूड़ी देखना- सौभाग्य में वृद्धि

120- कुआं देखना- सम्मान बढऩा

121- अनार देखना- धन प्राप्ति के योग

122- गड़ा धन दिखाना- अचानक धन लाभ

123- सूखा अन्न खाना- परेशानी बढऩा

124- अर्थी देखना- बीमारी से छुटकारा

125- झरना देखना- दु:खों का अंत होना

126- बिजली गिरना- संकट में फंसना

127- चादर देखना- बदनामी के योग

128- जलता हुआ दीया देखना- आयु में वृद्धि

129- धूप देखना- पदोन्नति और धनलाभ

130- रत्न देखना- व्यय एवं दु:ख 131- चंदन देखना- शुभ समाचार मिलना

132- जटाधारी साधु देखना- अच्छे समय की शुरुआत

133- स्वयं की मां को देखना- सम्मान की प्राप्ति

134- फूलमाला दिखाई देना- निंदा होना

135- जुगनू देखना- बुरे समय की शुरुआत

136- टिड्डी दल देखना- व्यापार में हानि

137- डाकघर देखना- व्यापार में उन्नति

138- डॉक्टर को देखना- स्वास्थ्य संबंधी समस्या

139- ढोल दिखाई देना- किसी दुर्घटना की आशंका

140- मंदिर देखना- धार्मिक कार्य में सहयोग करना

141- तपस्वी दिखाई- देना दान करना

142- तर्पण करते हुए देखना- परिवार में किसी बुर्जुग की मृत्यु

143- डाकिया देखना- दूर के रिश्तेदार से मिलना

144- तमाचा मारना- शत्रु पर विजय

145- उत्सव मनाते हुए देखना- शोक होना

146- दवात दिखाई देना- धन आगमन

147- नक्शा देखना- किसी योजना में सफलता

148- नमक देखना- स्वास्थ्य में लाभ

149- कोर्ट-कचहरी देखना- विवाद में पडऩा

150- पगडंडी देखना- समस्याओं का निराकरण

151- सीना या आंख खुजाना- धन लाभ होगा

प्रेम में पड़ी स्त्री

प्रेम में पड़ी स्त्री

अक्सर ‘बचलन’ कहलाती है,

जबकि उसकी गलती सिर्फ़ इतनी होती है

कि उसने किसी को दिल से चाहने की हिम्मत की होती है।

गलत वह नहीं…

गलत तो यह समाज है

जो स्त्री का प्रेम तो देखना चाहता है,

पर उसकी अपनी इच्छाओं को

दबा देना चाहता है।

जिस दुनिया में

पुरुष का इश्क़ ‘जुनून’ कहलाता है,

उसी दुनिया में

स्त्री का इश्क़ ‘चरित्र’ पर निशाना बन जाता है।

वह प्यार में पड़ती है

तो उसे कटघरे में खड़ा कर दिया जाता है,

मानो मोहब्बत कोई गुनाह हो

और उस गुनाह की सज़ा

सिर्फ़ स्त्रियों के नाम लिखी गई हो।

सच तो यह है—

गलत स्त्री नहीं,

गलत वह सोच है

जो आज भी प्रेम को नहीं,

स्त्री को तौलती है।

जबकि प्यार करने का गुनाह

तो दोनों ने किया होता है

फिर सज़ा एक को ही क्यों????

स्त्री कभी संतुष्ट नहीं होती ...???

स्त्री से प्रेम में अगर आप ये उम्मीद करते हैं 

कि वो आपसे पूरी तरह खुश है तो 

आप नादानी में हैं...???

ये स्त्री के मूल में ही नहीं है...

अगर आप बहुत ज्यादा केयर करते है तो 

उससे भी ऊब जाएगी, 

अगर आप बहुत उग्र हैं तो वो 

उससे भी बिदक जाएगी, 

अगर आप बहुत ज्यादा विनम्र हैं तो वो 

उससे भी चिढ जाएगी, 

अगर आप उससे बहुत ज्यादा बात करते हैं तो वो आपको टेक इट फौर ग्रांटड लेने लगेगी, 

अगर आप उससे बहुत कम बात करते हैं तो वो 

मान लेगी कि आपका चक्कर कहीं और चल रहा है...

यानी आप कुछ भी कर लीजिए वो 

संतुष्ट नहीं हो सकती... 

ये उसका स्वभाव है वो 

एक ऐसा डेडली काॅम्बीनेशन खोजती है जो 

बना ही न हो बन ही न सकता हो....

ठीक वैसे ही जैसे कपड़ा खरीदने जाती है तो 

कहती कि इसी कलर में कोई दूसरा डिजाइन दिखाओ, इसी डिजाइन में कोई दूसरा कलर दिखाओ 

कपड़े का गट्ठर लगा देती है... 

बहुत परिश्रम के बाद एक पसंद आ भी गया, 

तो भी संतुष्ट नहीं हो सकती... 

आखिरी तक सोचती है कि इसमे ये 

डिजाइन ऐसे होता तो परफैक्ट होता...

इन सबके बावजूद एक बहुत बड़ी खूबी भी है 

स्त्री के अंदर ...

एक बार उसे कुछ पसंद आ गया तो उसे 

आखिरी दम तक सजो के रखती है वो 

चाहे रिश्ते हो या चूड़ी...

रंग उतर जाएगा चमक खत्म हो जाएगी 

पर खुद से जुदा नहीं करेगी... 

बस यही खूबी स्त्री को विशिष्ट बनाती है...

स्त्री से प्रेम में अगर आप ये उम्मीद करते हैं कि 

वो आपसे पूरी तरह खुश है तो 

आप नादानी में हैं... 

ये स्त्री के मूल में ही नहीं है...

स्त्री का प्रेम अक्सर पूर्ण समर्पण चाहता है। वह जिसे प्रेम करती है, उसमें अपनी पहचान ढूँढने लगती है। यही उसका सबसे बड़ा बल भी है और सबसे बड़ी कमजोरी भी। जब उसका सारा संसार एक व्यक्ति, एक विचार या एक उद्देश्य के इर्द-गिर्द सिमट जाता है, तब उसके भीतर यह डर जन्म लेने लगता है कि कहीं यह सब छिन न जाए। यही भय उसे नियंत्रक बना सकता है, कठोर बना सकता है, और कभी-कभी ऐसे निर्णयों की ओर धकेल देता है जिनका वह स्वयं अनुमान नहीं कर पाती।

वहीं पुरुष का प्रेम अक्सर स्वतंत्रता से जुड़ा होता है। वह चाहता है कि उसे समझा जाए, पर बाँधा न जाए। उसकी सबसे गहरी आशंका यह होती है कि कहीं प्रेम उसकी गति, उसकी सोच और उसके विस्तार को सीमित न कर दे। जब उसे लगता है कि कोई उसके चारों ओर घेरा बना रहा है, तब वह धीरे-धीरे पीछे हटने लगता है। वह खुलकर संघर्ष नहीं करता, बल्कि चुप्पी, दूरी और अंततः त्याग का रास्ता चुन लेता है।

यहीं से दोनों के बीच का असंतुलन शुरू होता है। स्त्री जितना पास आती है, पुरुष उतना दूर जाने लगता है। स्त्री इस दूरी को अपने अस्तित्व के लिए खतरा मानती है और उसे भरने के लिए और अधिक प्रयास करती है। पुरुष उस प्रयास को दबाव समझने लगता है। यह टकराव प्रेम का नहीं, बल्कि दोनों की छिपी असुरक्षाओं का होता है।

स्त्री की आशंका यह होती है कि यदि उसने सब कुछ नहीं थामा, तो सब कुछ बिखर जाएगा। पुरुष की आशंका यह होती है कि यदि वह रुक गया, तो वह स्वयं को खो देगा। दोनों अपने-अपने डर से संचालित होते हैं, और यही डर प्रेम को धीरे-धीरे सत्ता, नियंत्रण और अपेक्षाओं के खेल में बदल देता है।

सबसे दुखद बात यह है कि जब यह संबंध टूटता है, तो दोनों ही खुद को पीड़ित मानते हैं। स्त्री सोचती है कि उसने सब कुछ दिया फिर भी उसे छोड़ा गया। पुरुष सोचता है कि उससे बहुत कुछ छीन लिया गया। दोनों ही सच होते हैं, और दोनों ही अधूरे।

ध्यान' -स्वयं को देखने और समझने की कला...

ध्यान' -स्वयं को देखने और समझने की कला...

प्रकृति का सबसे बड़ा और अटल नियम है "परिवर्तन। इस संसार में कुछ भी स्थायी नहीं है। न विचार स्थिर रहते हैं, न परिस्थितियाँ, न ही जीवन की अवस्थाएँ। आज जो है, वह कल नहीं होगा। विचार बदलते हैं, भावनाएँ बदलती हैं, समय बदलता है और इसी परिवर्तन में जीवन बहता रहता है।

प्रकृति को देखें। पशु-पक्षी एक स्थान पर बँधकर नहीं रहते। ऋतु बदलते ही वे एक जगह से दूसरी जगह चले जाते हैं। उनके लिए आकाश सीमा नहीं है, धरती बंधन नहीं है। वे जानते हैं कि जहाँ जीवन अनुकूल न हो, वहाँ रुकना बुद्धिमानी नहीं।

इंसान भी कभी ऐसा ही था घूमता, खोजता, समझता। लेकिन आज का इंसान स्वयं को एक जगह, एक संपत्ति, एक पहचान और एक धनराशि में बाँध चुका है।

धन आवश्यक है इसमें कोई संदेह नहीं। यह जीवन की जरूरतों को पूरा करता है, सुरक्षा देता है, सुविधा देता है। लेकिन जब धन ही जीवन का उद्देश्य बन जाए, जब उसी पर सब कुछ न्योछावर कर दिया जाए, तब यह बुद्धिमत्ता नहीं बल्कि अंधापन बन जाता है।

इंसान पूरी उम्र दौड़ता रहता है घर, गाड़ी, पद, प्रतिष्ठा के पीछे यह भूलकर कि यह सब अस्थायी है।

अंतिम समय का सत्य बहुत कठोर है।

उस समय न धन साथ होता है, न पद।

न वही घर, न वही लोग।

एक कमरे में आप जीवन और मृत्यु के बीच लेटे होंगे, और दूसरे कमरे में दुनिया की पार्टियाँ चल रही होंगी।

जीवन अपनी गति से चलता रहेगा क्योंकि आपने भी यही किया था। आपने भी कभी रुककर नहीं देखा, न खुद को, न दूसरों को।

तो फिर दुनिया से यह उम्मीद क्यों कि वह आपके लिए रुक जाएगी?

यहीं से ध्यान की आवश्यकता जन्म लेती है।

ध्यान का अर्थ किसी विशेष आसन में बैठना, आँखें बंद करना या बड़े-बड़े भवनों और शब्दों में उसे कैद करना नहीं है।

ध्यान कोई संस्था नहीं है।

ध्यान कोई पद्धति नहीं है।

ध्यान कोई प्रदर्शन नहीं है।

ध्यान तो प्रकृति है।

जो सबके लिए समान है।

जो बिना भेदभाव के हर इंसान के भीतर मौजूद है।

ध्यान का पहला और सबसे महत्वपूर्ण कदम है......रुकना।

थोड़ी देर के लिए इस दौड़ से बाहर आना।

अपने विचारों को देखना।

अपने भीतर झाँकना।

अपने आप से एक ईमानदार प्रश्न पूछना 

“मैं कौन हूँ?”

“क्या मैं वही जीवन जी रहा हूँ जो मैं सच में चाहता हूँ?”

अधिकांश लोग जीवन भर दूसरों को खुश करने में लगे रहते हैं 

कभी परिवार को,

कभी दोस्तों को,

कभी समाज को,

और अक्सर अपने से ऊपर बैठे बॉस को।

लेकिन प्रश्न यह है कि 

आपने स्वयं को कब खुश किया?

आपने अंतिम बार कब खुद को महसूस किया?

जो व्यक्ति स्वयं को नहीं देख पाता,

जो अपने भीतर की आवाज़ को नहीं सुनता,

उसे कभी ध्यान नहीं होगा।

ध्यान का अर्थ है 

खुद को देखना,

खुद को समझना,

अपनी सीमाओं को स्वीकार करना,

और अपनी क्षमताओं को पहचानना।

हर व्यक्ति के भीतर कुछ विशेष है।

लेकिन जब तक वह व्यक्ति स्वयं से जुड़ता नहीं, तब तक वह क्षमता दबे रहती है।

ध्यान वही प्रक्रिया है जो हमें हमारे भीतर छुपी शक्ति से परिचित कराती है।

यह सच है कि ध्यान का रास्ता सबके लिए अलग होता है।

किसी के लिए यह मौन में है,

किसी के लिए प्रकृति के बीच,

किसी के लिए सेवा में,

और किसी के लिए अकेलेपन में।

लेकिन सार एक ही है 

स्वयं से जुड़ना।

जब इंसान स्वयं को समझने लगता है,

तो उसे बाहरी दिखावे की आवश्यकता नहीं रहती।

वह धन का उपयोग करता है, लेकिन उसका गुलाम नहीं बनता।

वह रिश्ते निभाता है, लेकिन उनमें खोता नहीं।

वह जीवन जीता है, लेकिन अचेतन होकर नहीं।

यही असली ध्यान है।

यही सच्ची जागरूकता है।

और यही वह मार्ग है जो इंसान को भीतर से मुक्त करता है।

अपना सम्मान कैसे करें?

 (1) जो आपको नहीं ढूंढ रहा है उसकी तलाश करना बंद कर दें।

 (2) भीख मांगना बंद करो।

 (3) आवश्यकता से अधिक बोलना बंद करें।

 (4) जब लोग आपका अपमान करें तो तुरंत उनका सामना करें।

 (5) किसी दूसरे का खाना उससे ज़्यादा न खाएं जितना वे आपका खाते हैं।

 (6) आप कुछ लोगों से मिलने जाना कम कर दें, खासकर यदि वे इसका प्रतिदान नहीं करते हैं।

 (7) अपने आप में निवेश करें। अपने आप को खुश करो.

 (8) दूसरे लोगों के बारे में गपशप करना बंद करें।

 (9) बात करने से पहले सोचें। लोग आपको कितना महत्व देते हैं इसका 80% आपके मुँह से निकलता है।

 (10) हमेशा अपना सर्वश्रेष्ठ दिखें। वैसे ही कपड़े पहनें जैसे आपको संबोधित किया जाना चाहिए।

 (11) सफल व्यक्ति बनें। अपने लक्ष्य में व्यस्त हो जाओ.

 (12) अपने समय का सम्मान करें।

 (13) ऐसे रिश्ते में न रहें जहां आप सम्मानित और मूल्यवान महसूस न करें। दूर जाना।

 (14) अपने ऊपर पैसा खर्च करना सीखें. इस तरह लोग आप पर खर्च करना सीखेंगे।

 (15) कभी-कभी दुर्लभ होना।

 (16) लेने वाले से अधिक देने वाले बनें।

 (17) जहां आपको आमंत्रित न किया जाए वहां न जाएं। और जब आमंत्रित किया जाए तो स्वागत में देरी न करें।

 (18) लोगों के साथ बिल्कुल वैसा ही व्यवहार करें जिसके वे हकदार हैं।

 (19) सिवाय इसके कि उन पर आपका पैसा बकाया है, दो कॉल प्रयास पर्याप्त हैं। यदि वे आपको महत्व देते हैं तो वे आपको वापस बुलाएंगे।

 (20) आप जो करते हैं उसमें अच्छे बनें। सबसे अच्छा। 

कुछ स्त्रियाँ गंगा होती हैं...

 कुछ स्त्रियाँ गंगा होती हैं...

कुछ स्त्रियाँ केवल शरीर नहीं होतीं, वे नदी होती हैं, गंगा होती हैं। वे जीवन के प्रवाह की तरह सतत बहती हैं, अपने भीतर प्रेम, त्याग और सहनशीलता की अथाह गहराई समेटे। वे अपने प्रियजनों के सुख-दुःख का जलधार बनती हैं—कभी शांत, कभी वेगवान, कभी कोमल तो कभी प्रचंड। वे ठहरती नहीं, वे सागर से मिलने की चाह भी नहीं रखतीं। वे बहती हैं, केवल बहती हैं, और इसी में उनका सम्पूर्ण अस्तित्व सिमट जाता है।

जब किसी पुरुष का जीवन कठिनाइयों से घिर जाता है, जब उसे अपने ही संघर्षों की आग में जलना पड़ता है, तब वही स्त्री उसके लिए ठंडी छाँव बन जाती है। उसकी गोद में सिर रखते ही सारे बोझ उतरने लगते हैं, जैसे कोई तपता हुआ सूरज बादलों की गोद में समा जाए। उसकी हथेलियाँ आश्वासन का स्पर्श बन जाती हैं, उसके शब्द अमृत-धारा। वह कुछ कहती नहीं, पर उसकी मौन उपस्थिति ही घावों पर मलहम बन जाती है।

कभी वह माँ होती है, जो अपनी संतान के हर दर्द को खुद पर ले लेती है। कभी वह प्रेमिका होती है, जो अपने प्रिय की आँखों में उदासी नहीं देख सकती और अपनी हँसी से उसका मन बहलाने की कोशिश करती है। कभी वह पत्नी होती है, जो अपने साथी के सपनों को खुद से अधिक महत्व देती है और उसके हर संघर्ष में चुपचाप खड़ी रहती है। कभी वह बेटी होती है, जो पिता की चिंताओं को मुस्कान में छुपा लेती है।

स्त्रियाँ प्रेम में जलती हैं, पर राख नहीं होतीं। वे आँसू पीती हैं, पर मुस्कुराहट बिखेरती हैं। वे खुद को मिटाकर अपनों को संवारती हैं। वे नदी की तरह त्यागमयी हैं—जो सबको जल देती है, पर खुद कभी प्यास की शिकायत नहीं करती। वे तीर्थ हैं—जहाँ आकर हर कोई पापमुक्त हो जाता है, मगर स्वयं कभी मुक्ति नहीं पातीं।

कुछ स्त्रियाँ गंगा होती हैं…

उनमें डूबकर उनके प्रिय पुरुष अपने विकारों से मुक्त हो जाते हैं, अपने बोझ हल्के कर लेते हैं, और निर्मल होकर लौटते हैं।

लेकिन वे स्त्रियाँ? वे बहती रहती हैं… सतत, निःस्वार्थ, निस्सीम… बिना किसी शिकायत, बिना किसी विराम के।

ADVICES FOR THE SINGLE GUYS...

 ADVICES FOR THE SINGLE GUYS...

1. BE GOAL ORIENTED:

Stop chasing women, and FOCUS ON CHASING YOUR GOALS. Improve your economy, your value as a man increases when you are able to sustain yourself, and it will continue to increase when you have the ability to provide for others.

2. STUDY REGULARLY:

You can read the books you want, go to the conferences you want, but nothing happens if you don't have SELF-ESTEEM. When your self-esteem improves everything improves: your economy, your physique, your relationships, etc. If you don't have self-esteem, you're already at a disadvantage.

3. SPEND AND SAVE WISELY:

If you have no inheritance, if you have no financial support, if you don't have contacts, if you have great studies, or skills, do what a real man does: work, save, make capital. Don't borrow to buy luxuries, nor to play entrepreneurship. It's true that everything in life is risk, but it's not about taking risks for taking them. Simply if you are starting out DON'T OWE YOURSELF. Work, save, capitalize, that's how it starts.

4. PLAN,ACT WISELY:

person who wants to get ahead CANNOT AFFORD TO WASTE HIS TIME. Devote all your energy and hours possible to develop skills. What skills? Skills that help you make money: learn to sell, learn to write persuasively, learn to speak, learn to lead, learn another language, learn digital marketing, viralization, etc.

5. ACT RESPONSIBLY:

If you had children at a young age, behave like a man and take your RESPONSIBILITY. You're not the first and you won't be the last. You can be separated from the mom or move on with her, but no matter what, don't abandon your children, take on the role of a father to those creatures: be a provider, a protector, and a guide. Don't use your children as an excuse, use them as a motivation to overcome yourself

6. THINK ABOUT YOUR FUTURE:

Your future is not in another country, YOUR FUTURE IS IN YOUR HANDS. Acquire financial education and entrepreneurial mindset, that will open your eyes and you will start seeing opportunities where you used to only see problems. Europe is not what you think, America is not what you believe, Asia is not what you see, but instead you if you are MORE than you believe, act accordingly!

7. INVEST IN YOURSELF: If you're already in another city or country, make your decision worth all the effort. Don't work to be sending money to irresponsible, conformist and liars family members. Help your parents and/or your children if they really need it, but fundamentally INVEST IN YOURSELF, educate yourself financially, make capital, your goal should be to become an entrepreneur or investor.

8. LEARNING DOES NOT END IN SCHOOL:

Some people think that their education ended when they finished high school, others when they left university, on the other hand, successful people think that EDUCATION NEVER ENDS, so invest in training, books, mentoring, counselling, never stop learning!

9. STUDY FEMALE PSYCHOLOGY:

choosing the wrong person as a partner can ruin you. Nowadays feminism is hurting women a lot and the family is under attack. Dysfunctional homes are on the rise. There are many women, and men, emotionally damaged, so you must learn to spot the signs of a person with internal problems, or distorted behaviours. First of all, remember: to find a healthy woman, first you must have been healed, because if you're wrong, it's highly likely that you choose wrong, it all starts with you!

10. DO NOT BE DESPERATE:

Patience is underestimated, but really true wealth and true success require patience, a lot of patience. Rome wasn't built in a day. So don't run to run, don't wear out. You're living your best years, but the years ahead are even better.

25 habits that can help you achieve financial success

Here are the 25 habits that can help you achieve financial success, as outlined by Samir Machawe:

1. Start saving early: Develop a habit of saving a portion of your income from an early age.

2. Invest wisely: Invest your money in assets that have a high potential for growth.

3. Live below your means: Avoid overspending and live within your means.

4. Develop multiple income streams: Diversify your income streams to reduce financial risk.

5. Minimize debt: Work towards becoming debt-free by paying off high-interest loans and credit cards.

6. Build an emergency fund: Save 3-6 months' worth of expenses in an easily accessible savings account.

7. Cultivate financial literacy: Continuously educate yourself on personal finance, investing, and wealth-building strategies.

8. Avoid procrastination: Take action towards your financial goals without delaying.

9. Set clear financial goals: Define specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound (SMART) financial objectives.

10. Prioritize needs over wants: Distinguish between essential expenses and discretionary spending.

11. Develop a long-term perspective: Focus on long-term financial growth rather than short-term gains.

12. Diversify your investments: Spread your investments across different asset classes to minimize risk.

13. Monitor and adjust: Regularly review your financial progress and adjust your strategies as needed.

14. Avoid lifestyle inflation: Avoid increasing your spending as your income rises.

15. Build multiple sources of passive income: Create streams of income that can generate wealth without requiring direct involvement.

16. Stay disciplined and patient: Wealth creation often requires discipline, patience, and perseverance.

17. Leverage technology: Utilize digital tools and platforms to streamline your finances, investments, and wealth-building strategies.

18. Develop a wealth mindset: Cultivate a mindset that supports wealth creation, such as a growth mindset, resilience, and adaptability.

19. Build a support network: Surround yourself with people who support and encourage your financial goals.

20. Stay informed but avoid emotional decisions: Stay up-to-date with market news and trends, but avoid making impulsive financial decisions based on emotions.

21. Prioritize financial independence: Focus on achieving financial independence, where your wealth generates enough income to cover your living expenses.

22. Develop a tax-efficient strategy: Optimize your tax strategy to minimize tax liabilities and maximize after-tax returns.

23. Build an estate plan: Create a comprehensive estate plan, including a will, trusts, and beneficiary designations.

24. Prioritize insurance and risk management: Ensure you have adequate insurance coverage and a risk management strategy to protect your wealth.

25. Stay humble and grounded: Maintain a humble and grounded attitude towards wealth, recognizing that true wealth goes beyond financial riches.

By incorporating these 25 habits into your daily life, you'll be well on your way to achieving financial success and building lasting wealth.

15 BENEFITS OF KEEPING YOUR LIFE PRIVATE...

15 BENEFITS OF KEEPING YOUR LIFE PRIVATE...

1. The less you share, the less likely

people will be in your business.

2. You'll stop caring about people's

opinion about your life.

3. You won't have to seek validation

to do what feels right for you.

4. You'll attract peace into your life.

You'll experience less drama, toxic

energy and more time alone.

5. If everyone is your friend, you've a

problem. You can't trust anyone with

personal information.

6. The real flex is being private, staying

low-key and telling no one about your

life.

7. It'll be 10x easier to walk some paths

alone to achieve your personal goals.

8. Privacy teaches you independence

and how to connect with people on a

deeper level.

9. Everyone leaves. You'll learn how to

be alone and not feel lonely.

10. When you build in silence, people

won't know what to attack.

11. People don't care so much about you.

They only care on what you can offer.

12. People will want to know more about

you when you talk less of yourself.

13. You'll owe no one any explanation

about your personal life.

14. Not everyone is your friend, live a

private life to never attract bad

energy.

15. You'll learn when to be alone and

when to be with others.

अपने जीवन को निजी रखने के 15 लाभ...

1. जितना कम आप साझा करेंगे, उतनी ही कम संभावना है कि लोग आपके व्यवसाय में शामिल होंगे।

2. आप अपने जीवन के बारे में लोगों की राय की परवाह करना बंद कर देंगे।

3. आपको जो सही लगता है उसे करने के लिए मान्यता की तलाश नहीं करनी पड़ेगी।

4. आप अपने जीवन में शांति को आकर्षित करेंगे।

आप कम नाटक, विषाक्त

ऊर्जा और अकेले अधिक समय का अनुभव करेंगे।

5. अगर हर कोई आपका दोस्त है, तो आपके पास एक समस्या है। आप किसी पर भी व्यक्तिगत जानकारी के लिए भरोसा नहीं कर सकते।

6. असली लचीलापन निजी होना, कम महत्वपूर्ण रहना और अपने जीवन के बारे में किसी को न बताना है।

7. अपने व्यक्तिगत लक्ष्यों को प्राप्त करने के लिए कुछ रास्तों पर अकेले चलना 10 गुना आसान हो जाएगा।

8. गोपनीयता आपको स्वतंत्रता सिखाती है

और लोगों के साथ गहरे स्तर पर जुड़ना सिखाती है।

9. हर कोई छोड़ देता है। आप सीखेंगे कि अकेले कैसे रहना है और अकेलापन महसूस नहीं करना है।

10. जब आप मौन में निर्माण करते हैं, तो लोग नहीं जानते कि किस पर हमला करना है।

11. लोग आपकी इतनी परवाह नहीं करते।

वे केवल इस बात की परवाह करते हैं कि आप क्या दे सकते हैं।

12. जब आप अपने बारे में कम बात करेंगे तो लोग आपके बारे में अधिक जानना चाहेंगे।

13. आपको अपने निजी जीवन के बारे में किसी को कोई स्पष्टीकरण नहीं देना होगा।

14. हर कोई आपका मित्र नहीं है, निजी जीवन जिएँ ताकि कभी भी बुरी ऊर्जा आकर्षित न हो।

15. आप सीखेंगे कि कब अकेले रहना है और कब दूसरों के साथ रहना है।