प्रेम, भय और नियंत्रण...

 "प्रेम, भय और नियंत्रण: स्त्री-पुरुष के भीतर छिपी असुरक्षाएँ"

मनुष्य का जीवन केवल बाहर की दुनिया में घटने वाली घटनाओं से नहीं बनता, बल्कि भीतर चलने वाले संघर्षों से आकार लेता है। प्रेम, विश्वास और समर्पण जैसे शब्द जितने सुंदर लगते हैं, उतने ही जटिल भी हैं। इन्हीं भावनाओं के भीतर कहीं न कहीं भय, असुरक्षा और खो देने की आशंका छिपी रहती है चाहे वह स्त्री का मन हो या पुरुष का।

स्त्री का प्रेम अक्सर पूर्ण समर्पण चाहता है। वह जिसे प्रेम करती है, उसमें अपनी पहचान ढूँढने लगती है। यही उसका सबसे बड़ा बल भी है और सबसे बड़ी कमजोरी भी। जब उसका सारा संसार एक व्यक्ति, एक विचार या एक उद्देश्य के इर्द-गिर्द सिमट जाता है, तब उसके भीतर यह डर जन्म लेने लगता है कि कहीं यह सब छिन न जाए। यही भय उसे नियंत्रक बना सकता है, कठोर बना सकता है, और कभी-कभी ऐसे निर्णयों की ओर धकेल देता है जिनका वह स्वयं अनुमान नहीं कर पाती।

वहीं पुरुष का प्रेम अक्सर स्वतंत्रता से जुड़ा होता है। वह चाहता है कि उसे समझा जाए, पर बाँधा न जाए। उसकी सबसे गहरी आशंका यह होती है कि कहीं प्रेम उसकी गति, उसकी सोच और उसके विस्तार को सीमित न कर दे। जब उसे लगता है कि कोई उसके चारों ओर घेरा बना रहा है, तब वह धीरे-धीरे पीछे हटने लगता है। वह खुलकर संघर्ष नहीं करता, बल्कि चुप्पी, दूरी और अंततः त्याग का रास्ता चुन लेता है।

यहीं से दोनों के बीच का असंतुलन शुरू होता है। स्त्री जितना पास आती है, पुरुष उतना दूर जाने लगता है। स्त्री इस दूरी को अपने अस्तित्व के लिए खतरा मानती है और उसे भरने के लिए और अधिक प्रयास करती है। पुरुष उस प्रयास को दबाव समझने लगता है। यह टकराव प्रेम का नहीं, बल्कि दोनों की छिपी असुरक्षाओं का होता है।

स्त्री की आशंका यह होती है कि यदि उसने सब कुछ नहीं थामा, तो सब कुछ बिखर जाएगा। पुरुष की आशंका यह होती है कि यदि वह रुक गया, तो वह स्वयं को खो देगा। दोनों अपने-अपने डर से संचालित होते हैं, और यही डर प्रेम को धीरे-धीरे सत्ता, नियंत्रण और अपेक्षाओं के खेल में बदल देता है।

सबसे दुखद बात यह है कि जब यह संबंध टूटता है, तो दोनों ही खुद को पीड़ित मानते हैं। स्त्री सोचती है कि उसने सब कुछ दिया फिर भी उसे छोड़ा गया। पुरुष सोचता है कि उससे बहुत कुछ छीन लिया गया। दोनों ही सच होते हैं, और दोनों ही अधूरे।

प्रेम वास्तव में तभी मुक्त करता है, जब उसमें भय न हो। जब स्त्री यह समझ सके कि उसका अस्तित्व किसी एक केंद्र पर निर्भर नहीं है, और पुरुष यह स्वीकार कर सके कि निकटता स्वतंत्रता की शत्रु नहीं होती। जब समर्पण और स्वतंत्रता एक-दूसरे के विरोधी नहीं, बल्कि सहयात्री बन जाएँ।

समस्या प्रेम की नहीं होती, बल्कि उस खालीपन की होती है जिसे हम प्रेम से भरना चाहते हैं। और जब तक मनुष्य अपने भीतर की उस रिक्ति से सामना नहीं करता, तब तक वह हर रिश्ते में उसी भय को दोहराता रहेगा चाहे पात्र बदल जाएँ, चाहे परिस्थितियाँ।

राहुल कुमार झा ✒️✒️

HOW TO KNOW IF THE LOVE IS REAL

 HOW TO KNOW IF THE LOVE IS REAL 

When someone loves you, you know and you will feel it. There will be evidences to attest to it.

Below are some of the evidences...

✅ ATTENTION 

When someone loves you, he or she will give you attention. We give attention to the things that we love. 

✅ CARE

When someone loves you, they will care about your well-being. Anyone that doesn't care about your welfare does not love you. 

✅ COMMUNICATION 

When someone loves you, they will communicate often with you as much as possible. Hearing the voice of whom you love is a delight. 

✅ GIVING 

The natural outflow of love is giving. When someone loves you, they will give. It doesn't necessarily has to be money but there will be giving. 

✅ SPENDING TIME TOGETHER 

When someone loves you, they will desire and long to spend time with you. When you love someone, you will desire the presence of the person. Anyone that doesn't like spending time with you, may not love you. 

✅ SACRIFICE 

The ultimate prove of love is sacrifice. Love is not self-seeking. Love always spends itself at the expense of the beloved. Someone that is not going out of his way once in a while to make you feel good, may not love you. Love is sacrificial. 

✅ PATIENCE

When someone loves you, they will patient with you. They will be patient with in your weaknesses, down time, etc. 

✅ PROTECTION

When someone loves you, they will try to protect you from harm, they will ensure that you are safe. 

✅ KINDNESS

When someone loves you, they will be kind to you. Love is kind. Harshness is a sign of hatred, resentment or anger not a sign of love. 

✅ VULNERABILITY

When someone loves you, they will vulnerable to you. They will loose their guard, put down their defence, they will dismantle the barricade and they will show you the weak side of them hoping you don't hurt them.

✅ SUPPORT

When someone loves you, they will support you in whatever capacity they can.They will support your dreams and aspirations, they will support you financially, spiritually, emotionally and otherwise.

✅ INVESTMENT

When someone loves you, they will invest in you to make you better than they met you mentally, emotionally, economically etc. Love builds up.

So these are some of the signs that shows someone loves you.

HOW TO CHOOSE A HUSBAND...

HOW TO CHOOSE A HUSBAND...

Choosing a husband is a significant life decision. Here are some guidelines to consider:

*Reflect on Your Values and Priorities*

1. Identify your non-negotiables (e.g., faith, family, integrity)

2. Consider your lifestyle, goals, and aspirations

3. Evaluate your emotional readiness for marriage

*Essential Qualities*

1. Character: integrity, honesty, kindness, empathy

2. Communication: effective listening, expressing thoughts and feelings

3. Emotional Intelligence: self-awareness, emotional regulation

4. Responsibility: reliability, accountability, financial stability

5. Mutual Respect: valuing each other's opinions, feelings, and boundaries

6. Trust: loyalty, faithfulness, transparency

7. Shared Vision: aligned goals, values, and aspirations

*Desirable Traits*

1. Sense of humor and playfulness

2. Intelligence and curiosity

3. Ambition and motivation

4. Emotional support and encouragement

5. Physical attraction and intimacy

6. Shared interests and hobbies

7. Adaptability and resilience

*Red Flags*

1. Dishonesty, manipulation, or deceit

2. Emotional or verbal abuse

3. Lack of accountability or responsibility

4. Incompatibility with your values or lifestyle

5. Unwillingness to communicate or resolve conflicts

6. Disrespect or disregard for boundaries

7. Addiction or substance abuse

*Evaluating Potential Partners*

1. Observe how they treat others (family, friends, strangers)

2. Assess their emotional intelligence and maturity

3. Evaluate their communication style and conflict resolution skills

4. Consider their values, goals, and priorities

5. Reflect on your feelings and intuition

6. Seek input from trusted friends, family, or mentors

*Questions to Ask Yourself*

1. Do I feel seen, heard, and valued?

2. Are our values and goals aligned?

3. Can we communicate effectively?

4. Do we share similar interests and hobbies?

5. How does he handle stress, conflict, or challenges?

6. Is he supportive and encouraging?

7. Do I feel emotionally safe and secure?

*Questions to Ask Him*

1. What are your life goals and aspirations?

2. How do you handle conflict or disagreements?

3. What are your expectations for our relationship?

4. How do you prioritize communication and emotional intimacy?

5. What are your thoughts on [important issues]?

6. How do you manage stress and emotions?

7. What are your expectations for finances and responsibilities?

*Prayer and Reflection*

1. Seek guidance from your faith or spiritual practice

2. Reflect on your feelings, thoughts, and intuition

3. Consider seeking counsel from trusted advisors

*Remember*

1. No one is perfect, but character and values matter

2. Compatibility and communication are key

3. Trust your instincts and prioritize emotional safety

4. Marriage is a journey, not a destination

5. Choose someone who inspires you to grow and become your best self

By considering these guidelines, you can make an informed decision and choose a husband who is compatible with your values, goals, and aspirations.

Unspoken Rules for Men...

Unspoken Rules for Men...

1. Never shake a hand sitting down. Standing up shows respect and engagement. It signifies that you value the person you are meeting and are fully present in the interaction.

2. Protect who is behind you, and respect who is beside you. This emphasizes loyalty and honor. Protecting those behind you means safeguarding your family, friends, and teammates. Respecting those beside you signifies recognizing the equality and value of your peers.

3. Never insult the cooking when you are the guest. Showing gratitude and respect for hospitality is essential. Criticizing the cooking is disrespectful and ungrateful, especially when someone has gone out of their way to host you.

4. Never eat the last piece of something you didn't buy.

This rule underscores courtesy and consideration for others. It demonstrates awareness and respect for shared resources and the contributions of others.

5. Never make the first offer in a negotiation.

Letting the other party make the first offer can provide strategic advantages. It gives you insight into their expectations and can help you negotiate better terms.

6. Don't take credit for work you didn't do.

Integrity in acknowledging others' efforts is crucial. Taking undue credit undermines trust and damages your credibility.

7. Take the blame, and give credit when due.

Owning up to mistakes and recognizing others' contributions builds respect and trust. It shows maturity and leadership.

8. If you are not invited, don't ask to go.

Respecting boundaries and invitations is key to maintaining good social etiquette. It avoids awkward situations and respects the host’s intentions.

9. Always aim for the head. This metaphorical rule can apply to many scenarios, implying that you should strive for excellence and precision in your efforts.

10. Don't beg for a relationship.Self-respect and dignity are important. Desperation can lead to unhealthy dynamics and undervalues your worth.

11. Dress well no matter what the occasion. Good grooming and dressing appropriately show respect for yourself and others. It also boosts confidence and makes a positive impression.

12. Always carry cash.

Being prepared for various situations, including emergencies, is practical. It reflects foresight and responsibility.

13. Listen, nod, and most of all make eye contact. Active listening and non-verbal engagement are crucial for effective communication. They show that you value and are attentive to the speaker.

14. Show restraint in expressing anger, no matter what. Being angry is a waste of energy. Managing anger is vital for maintaining composure and making rational decisions. It prevents regrettable actions and fosters a more positive environment.

15. Whether it's dinner, drinks, or both, avoid placing your phone on the dinner table.

Prioritizing face-to-face interactions over digital distractions shows respect and attentiveness to those present.

16. Never pose with alcohol. Maintaining a responsible image is important. Posing with alcohol can convey unprofessionalism or recklessness.

17. Proper grammar will get you far in life. Leave the foul language for the less educated.

Good communication skills, including proper grammar, enhance your credibility and professionalism. Avoiding foul language shows respect and maturity.

18. Ask more than you answer. Showing interest in others by asking questions fosters better relationships and understanding. It also demonstrates humility and a willingness to learn.

19. You can tell a great deal about a person by their handshake, so make yours strong and firm. A firm handshake conveys confidence and sincerity. It is often the first impression you make, so it’s important to get it right.

20. Speak honestly. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Honesty builds trust and integrity. It involves being truthful and consistent, fostering deeper connections and mutual respect. 

Speaking honestly also means balancing truth with empathy and tact, ensuring that your words are respectful and considerate....

RESPONSIBILITIES OF A FATHER IN A FAMILY

RESPONSIBILITIES OF A FATHER IN A FAMILY:

 PRIMARY RESPONSIBILITIES:

1. Providing financial support

2. Emotional guidance and support

3. Disciplining and setting boundaries

4. Role-modeling values and behavior

5. Protecting and ensuring family safety

EMOTIONAL SUPPORT:

1. Listening and validating feelings

2. Offering comfort and reassurance

3. Encouraging open communication

4. Supporting partner's emotional needs

5. Modeling healthy emotional expression

DISCIPLINE AND GUIDANCE:

1. Setting clear expectations and rules

2. Teaching life skills and values

3. Encouraging responsibility and independence

4. Modeling respectful communication

5. Providing constructive feedback

FINANCIAL PROVISION:

1. Managing household finances

2. Providing for family's basic needs

3. Planning for future financial security

4. Saving for children's education

5. Ensuring family's economic stability

ROLE-MODELING:

1. Demonstrating integrity and honesty

2. Modeling respectful relationships

3. Teaching respect for authority

4. Encouraging physical and mental well-being

5. Embodying values and principles

PARENTING PARTNERSHIP:

1. Co-parenting with mother

2. Sharing childcare responsibilities

3. Collaborating on discipline and guidance

4. Supporting partner's parenting style

5. Maintaining united front in parenting

COMMUNITY INVOLVEMENT:

1. Participating in children's activities

2. Volunteering in community or school

3. Building relationships with neighbors

4. Role-modeling social responsibility

5. Fostering community connections

PERSONAL GROWTH:

1. Pursuing personal interests and hobbies

2. Continuing education and self-improvement

3. Maintaining physical and mental health

4. Setting boundaries and prioritizing self-care

5. Seeking support and resources when needed

INFLUENCING CHILDREN'S DEVELOPMENT:

1. Shaping moral and ethical values

2. Encouraging educational and career goals

3. Modeling healthy relationships

4. Teaching life skills and independence

5. Fostering emotional intelligence

REMEMBER:

1. Fatherhood is a unique and vital role.

2. Emotional support is crucial for family well-being.

3. Partnership with your spouse is essential.

4. Role-modeling values and behavior shapes children's development.

5. Seeking support is a sign of strength.

WHO IS A WOMAN?

 WHO IS A WOMAN??

Having vagina, boobs, and hips doesn't make you a woman.

A woman is the one who feeds a man with encouragement and ideas 

A woman is the one who helps a man to save and invest wisely .

A woman does not run her mouth with sarcasm and insult just to prove a point, rather her words are gracious and can heal a broken heart .

A woman is the one that knows when to talk and to keep Quiet.

A woman is the one that doesn't leak secret. 

A woman is the one that is content with what she has, and not the one that sells her self for material things.

A woman is a manager, a caretaker,a womb that can nature and birth destinies .

A woman doesn't do trending things, but she is reserved and has a taste of a Queen.

A woman doesn't look down on any man because of his present state of life and financial status, rather she encourages any man to get better.

A woman is the one that does not just bears babies, but bear ideas and inspiration anytime, anywhere.

A woman is the one a man can cry on her shoulders and not feel humiliated for doing so nor lose his value . 

A woman is not the one that deceive a man just to eat his money, but the one who is honest and sincere in any relationship.

A woman is not the one that makes men feel terrible, but the one a man can run to for comfort.

A woman is the one that will spoil a man with honour and respect because there lies her strength and integrity .

A woman is an influence, a nation and a helper. 

Many are females but only few can be called a woman.

Now ask yourself today my dear lady;

AM I WOMEN?

COMMON NEEDS OF A WOMAN IN A RELATIONSHIP...

1. Emotional Support: To feel heard, validated, and supported.

2. Communication: Open, honest, and regular communication.

3. Trust: To trust her partner and feel secure.

4. Respect: To be treated with respect, kindness, and compassion.

5. Affection: Physical touch, intimacy, and emotional connection.

6. Quality Time: Spending quality time together, sharing experiences.

7. Independence: Maintaining her own identity, interests, and autonomy.

8. Emotional Intelligence: A partner who understands and manages their own emotions.

9. Supportive Partnership: A sense of teamwork and collaboration.

10. Personal Growth: Encouragement and support for her goals and aspirations.

11. Honesty and Transparency: Truthfulness and openness in all aspects.

12. Consistency and Reliability: Following through on commitments and being dependable.

THINGS THAT CAUSE REGRET AT OLD AGE

 THINGS THAT CAUSE REGRET AT OLD AGE

When younger, we make various choice's without the future in mind. Sometimes those choices bite us in our mid-life. These are some of the things one might regret when they're older.

1. Marrying the wrong person

When you're young, check your motives for marrying. Don't marry to copy your peers, or for social standing or out of pressure. Marry for love and companionship, marry the right person, marry your best friend. For if you marry the wrong person or for the wrong reasons, you will have to put up with that person the rest of your life. Things might get worse between you two; then depression, physical abuse, affairs, pain, shame, court cases, bitterness will define your mid-life years all because you chose the wrong one. Things will get worse when children are involved. Make the right choice of a spouse when you are young.

2. The opportunities you did not seize

When you are younger many doors will open, you will get many chances. Many young people let these opportunities go because of fear, laziness, or pride; yet well younger and with more energy is the best time to start a venture and a name for yourself. Some think the opportunities are too big for them. Take advantage of them or one day when you're older you will want to go back and grab those missed chances.

3. The bridges you burned

When we are younger, we care little for relationships, what most think about is getting money and moving up the ladder of success at all cost. Many use and trample on people to progress, they take relationships for granted, messing up bonds, sleeping with people for personal gain. But these bad actions will catch up with you ahead. When you will realize how empty life is without love and friends. When you will have success but no one around you or no one to trust you.

4.The child you aborted

You are a young lady, you get pregnant and you are scared. You take the aborting option quickly thinking of that moment then. But when you are much older, you will look back and wish you kept that baby. When you will be rich and successful you will wish that child you gave up on would be around to enjoy the fruits of your hard work. Being a single mother doesn't mean you can't make it in life or you can't find a man in future.

5. The child you rejected

Young man, you impregnated a woman, she told you she's pregnant with your child. You rejected her and the baby and ran. But years later when you're 50 something, you will wish you were responsible, you will wish you manned up and became a father to that child. You will see that child excel and become an adult but will have no claim to that grown child who you rejected from the beginning. You will regret being a Dead Beat Dad by choice

 6. The marriage you destroyed

So you get married to your good fiance; the first months in marriage were good but shortly after, with your money and charm, you started having affairs. You became unfaithful. Your spouse begged you to stop, your children started hurting, your marriage was collapsing. One day when you are older, it will hit you how foolish you were to destroy the good marriage you had began to build for mere temporary thrills in affairs that did you no good. You will realize the damage you caused to your children and spouse.

7. The God you disowned

When you are much older you become wiser, God becomes more real as you see life in a more meaningful way. But don't wait to get older to start enjoying a relationship with God. Know God when you are young, build your future with God. Don't be a young rebel who runs back to God when age catches up.

8. The body you messed up

You have only one body to live with all your life. The cigarettes, the alcohol you are abusing, the drugs you are taking, the unhealthy food you're consuming; all that will destroy you slowly. When you are 50 and lifestyle diseases catch up with you, you will wish you took care of your body when younger, that you exercised more; but now the damage is done.

9. The time you wasted

The time you are wasting when younger in worry, wrong relationships, laziness, being a couch potato, giving excuses and pursuing meaningless things; you will never get it back.

10. The dreams and talents you shelved

Are you talented when young; are there things you love to do and you are good at them? Nurture those talents, exploit them, don't give up even if you encounter set backs, don't give up on your dreams. If you give up, when you're older you will look at your peers who stuck to what they love and made it and think to yourself, "That could have been me". Pursue a career, study a course you love. Don't waste years of your life in a field that doesn't fulfill you.

11 The name you defamed

When you are older, a legacy is very important, the value of your name is crucial. You will ask yourself what is your reputation, what are you leaving behind? Your legacy is a sum total of your actions since youthful days. We write our biography by how we live life everyday. When you look back your path and you see the mud you threw at your own name, the shame you attracted and the little value you have added to the world; you will regret.

12. The wealth you threw away

Are you riding on good money during your productive years? Earning good money? Don't throw away that money in clubs, reckless living and wasteful shopping. Invest with that money, widen your revenue stream, make that money work for you and keep it safe to take care of you in your older years. Leave an inheritance for your loved ones so that you will never say "I wish I knew better"

13. The good love that got away

Is there that great person in your life loving you good? Don't push that person away, or else that person will walk out your life and you will never ever find someone that incredible and who connects with you all your life. It will torment you to grow older with thoughts of "What if I was still with that person?"

14 The parents you despised

When younger, it is easy to show contempt to your parents; what do your parent's know? They are old-fashioned, shady and small -minded. But your parents are still your parents whether you agree with them or not, whatever their style. Don't let your parent die or age separated from you, reconcile and make up. When you get older, you will realize why your parents wanted to be close to you. The older you get, the more you see the value. 

Thanks for reading

To realize

The value of a sister or brother

Ask someone

Who doesn't have one.

To realize

The value of ten years:

Ask a newly

Divorced couple.

To realize

The value of four years:

Ask a graduate.

To realize

The value of one year:

Ask a student who

Has failed a final exam.

To realize

The value of nine months:

Ask a mother who gave birth to a stillborn.

To realize

The value of one month:

Ask a mother

Who has given birth to

A premature baby.

To realize

The value of one week:

Ask an editor of a weekly newspaper.

To realize

The value of one minute:

Ask a person

Who has missed the train, bus or plane.

To realize

The value of one second:

Ask a person

Who has survived an accident.

Time waits for no one.

Treasure every moment you have.

THE BEST MARRIAGE ADVICE EVER...

 THE BEST MARRIAGE ADVICE EVER ✨ 

👉Choose to love each other even in those moments when you struggle to like each other. Love is a commitment, not a feeling.

👉Always answer the phone when your husband/wife is calling and when possible, try to keep your phone off when you’re together with your spouse.

👉Make time together a priority. Budget for a consistent date night. Time is the “currency of relationships” so consistently invest time into your marriage.

👉Surround yourself with friends who will strengthen your marriage and remove yourself from people who may tempt you to compromise your character.

👉Make laughter the soundtrack of your marriage. Share moments of joy, and even in the hard times, find reasons to laugh.

👉In every argument, remember that there won’t be a “winner” and a “loser.” You are partners in everything so you’ll either win together or lose together. Work together to find a solution.

👉Remember that a strong marriage rarely has two strong people at the same time. It’s usually a husband and wife taking turns being strong for each other in the moments when the other feels weak. 

👉Prioritize what happens in the bedroom. It takes more than sex to build a strong marriage, but it’s nearly impossible to build a strong marriage without it!

👉Remember that marriage isn’t 50-50, divorce is 50-50. 

✅Marriage has to be 100-100. It’s not splitting everything in half, but both partners giving everything they’ve got!

👉Give your best to each other, not your leftovers after you’ve given your best to everyone else.

👉Learn from other people, but don’t feel the need to compare your life or your marriage to anyone else’s. God’s plan for your life is masterfully unique!

👉Don’t put your marriage on hold while you’re raising your kids or else you’ll end up with an empty nest and an empty marriage.

👉Never keep secrets from each other. Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy.

👉Never lie to each other. Lies break trust and trust is the foundation of a strong marriage.

👉When you’ve made a mistake, admit it and humbly seek forgiveness. You should be quick to say, “I was wrong. I’m sorry. Please forgive me.”

👉When your husband/wife breaks your trust, give them your forgiveness instantly which will promote healing and create the opportunity for trust to be rebuilt. You should be quick to say, “I love you. I forgive you. Let’s move forward.”

👉Be patient with each other. Your spouse is always more important that your schedule.

👉Model the kind of marriage that will make your sons want to grow up to be good husbands and your daughters want to grow up to be good wives.

👉Never talk badly about your spouse to other people or vent about them online. Protect your spouse at all times and in all places.

✅Always wear your wedding ring. It will remind you that you’re always connected to your spouse and it will remind the rest of the world that you’re off limits!

👉Connect into a community of faith. A good place (church/pagoda …) can make a world of difference in your marriage and family.

👉Pray together. Every marriage is stronger with God in the middle of it.

👉When you have to choose between saying nothing or saying something mean to your spouse, say nothing every time!

👉Never consider annulment as an option. Remember that a “perfect marriage” is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other

WORDS FOR YOU

 WORDS FOR YOU

1. Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time." Thomas A. Edison

2. "Out of clutter, find Simplicity. From discord, find Harmony. In the middle of difficulty lies Opportunity." Albert Einstein

3. "With the new day comes new strength and new thoughts." Eleanor Roosevelt

4. "Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence." Helen Keller

5. "Keep your eyes on the stars, and your feet on the ground." Theodore Roosevelt

6. "What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals." Henry David Thoreau

7. "The key is to keep company only with people who uplift you, whose presence calls forth your best." Epictetus

8. "If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain." Maya Angelou

9. "Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible." Tony Robbins

10. "Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do." Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

11. "Determine never to be idle. No person will have occasion to complain of the want of time who never loses any. It is wonderful how much may be done if we are always doing." Thomas Jefferson

12. "Well done is better than well said." Benjamin Franklin

13. "If you start by promising what you don't even have yet, you'll lose your desire to work towards getting it." Paulo Coelho

14. "If you want to conquer fear, don't sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy." Dale Carnegie

15. "Go for it now. The future is promised to no one." Wayne Dyer

16. "The quality of a man's life is in direct proportion to his commitment to excellence, regardless of his chosen field of endeavor." Vince Lombardi

17. "Your talent determines what you can do. Your motivation determines how much you are willing to do. Your attitude determines how well you do it."

𝟏𝟎 lessons from the book 𝐑𝐮𝐥𝐞𝐬 𝐎𝐟 𝐖𝐨𝐫𝐤 

1. Walk Your Talk

Whenever you say something, live by it. Let people know you as a person who does what he says he will do. Always walk your talk. 

2. Have A Plan

No matter what's going on, always have a plan in life. Plan for the year. Plan for the next 2 years. Plan for the next 5 years. And plan for the next 20 years. Have a plan. 

3. Carve A Niche For Yourself 

Create a unique identity with what you do. Make sure you are known for doing something unique. Don’t get involved in what everyone is doing. Do something special. 

4. Learn From Others Mistakes 

A clever man learns from his own mistakes, but a wise man learns from others’ mistakes. Learn from the mistakes of others. Study how others made errors and commit to avoiding them. 

5. Develop The Right Attitude 

Be optimistic. Be positive. Share positivity with your colleagues, your friends and your acquaintance. The right attitude will attract you the right people to your life. 

6. Cultivate a Smile

Smile when it’s getting tough. Smile when it’s hell. Smile no matter what.

And what sort of smile? Friendly, genuine—make sure it extends to your eyes—sincere, frank, honest, open, happy.

7. Be Cool

At work you should retain your cool at all times and, no matter what, never ever lose your dignity. If there’s an office costume party, you can laugh and joke with everyone else, but let them do the dressing up. You remain apart from all that office nonsense.

8. Speak Well

You can keep your regional accent; that’s not the problem. Look at why we speak—it is to communicate, to convey information—rather than how we speak. Speaking well means getting information across clearly and effectively. It doesn’t matter how you speak, but it does matter that you speak clearly

9. Stay Focused On Your Long Term Goals 

You can’t afford to lose sight of your long-term goal for a second. For you there is no time off, no downtime, no lounging around time, no slipups, no mistakes, no accidental deviations from the script. 

You have to become like a master criminal—they lead incredibly law-abiding lives because they can’t risk breaking a tiny law in case it draws attention to themselves and the really big crimes get revealed—and watch what you say and what you do.

10. Know Yourself—Strengths and Weaknesses

If you are going to be a winner, you have to be incredibly objective about yourself. A lot of people can’t do this; they can’t turn the spotlight on themselves objectively enough or brightly enough to see themselves as others see them. And it’s not just how others see us; it’s also how we see ourselves. We all carry a mental image of ourselves—what we look like and sound like, what makes us tick; how we work—but how realistic is this image? 

How to Make Your Life Better:

1. Set Goals:

Define what you want to achieve in life, both short-term and long-term. Clear goals give your life direction and purpose.

2. Read Books:

Knowledge is power. Reading expands your perspective, sharpens your mind, and helps you grow both personally and professionally.

3. Have a Mentor:

A mentor can offer guidance, share valuable experiences, and help you avoid unnecessary mistakes.

4. Invest in Yourself:

Spend time and resources on your personal development—learn new skills, attend workshops, and improve your abilities.

5. Have an Open Mind:

Be willing to consider new ideas and perspectives. Flexibility helps you adapt to change and seize opportunities.

6. Always Be a Learner:

Cultivate a mindset of continuous learning. Stay curious, ask questions, and explore ways to improve daily.

7. Take Care of Your Health:

Your body and mind are your greatest assets. Eat well, exercise regularly, and prioritize mental well-being.

8. Become Financially Literate:

Understand how money works. Budget, save, and invest to secure your future and achieve financial freedom.

9. Have a Plan for Your Future:

Life is unpredictable, but having a plan helps you stay focused and work towards your dreams systematically.

10. Connect with Yourself Spiritually:

Whether through prayer, meditation, or reflection, nurturing your spiritual side can provide clarity, peace, and a sense of purpose.

LIFE LESSON

1. Don’t lend money to your family. Give it.

2. Never shake a hand while sitting down.

3. Stop telling people more than they need to know.

4. Never eat the last piece of something you didn't buy.

5. Don't throw your friend under the bus to impress someone.

6. Never insult the cooking when you are the guest.

7. Don't use the urinal next to an occupied one.

8. Don't take out your phone during a conversation.

9. Never take credit for work you didn't do.

10. Listen, nod, and most of all make eye contact.

11. Don't make fun of your friend in front of his kids.

12. Never let emotions overpower you.

13. Never beg for a relationship.

14. Dress well no matter what the occasion.

15. Never kick a man when he is already down.

IF 𝗬𝗢𝗨 𝗪𝗔𝗡𝗧 𝗔 𝗪𝗜𝗙𝗘, 𝗧𝗛𝗘𝗡 𝗕𝗘 𝗔 𝗛𝗨𝗦𝗕𝗔𝗡𝗗

IF 𝗬𝗢𝗨 𝗪𝗔𝗡𝗧 𝗔 𝗪𝗜𝗙𝗘, 𝗧𝗛𝗘𝗡 𝗕𝗘 𝗔 𝗛𝗨𝗦𝗕𝗔𝗡𝗗

1. If you want your wife to make love to you often, then take care of her heart. You cannot mistreat your wife and hurt her then expect great and frequent sex.

2. If you want your wife to respect you, then you have to do respectable and admirable things. You cannot dishonour her and shame her then expect her to excuse your gross misbehavior with a blanket respect. She can't submit to torture.

3. If you want your wife to feel safe with you and open up to you, then you have to stop emotionally and physically abusing her. You cannot instil fear and wonder why she protects herself from you.

4. If you want your wife to enjoy intimacy with you, then you have to maintain oral and body hygiene. You cannot expect your wife to enjoy kissing you and playing with your penis yet you smell of sweat, you don't shower, don't brush your teeth and smell of cigarette, weed or alcohol.

5. If you want your wife to stop complaining, then you need to stop repeating the same wrongs. She complains because she has to call you out when you do wrong since she believes you can be better.

6. If you want your wife to be financially transparent with you and to stop making financial decisions behind your back, then you need to start showing financial responsibility. As long as you keep being reckless, she will save and invest without your knowledge to protect her future and that of the children.

7. If you want your wife to brag about you to people, then do things that make her proud. She cannot pretend that you are a great man yet you are not.

8. If you want your wife to stop nagging and being moody, then you need to make time to spend with her and make her feel special. A woman nags and becomes grumpy when she feels neglected. A loved up wife glows.

9. If you want your wife to stop fighting your friends, then you need to stop surrounding yourself with the wrong friends and allowing your friends to pull you away from your family. You wife is just protecting you.

10. If you want your wife to be proud to be your wife, then you have to do things that make her say "Yes" to you daily. Don't expect her to be satisfied with the title of wife just because she wears your ring, has a marriage certificate or has your child/children.

11. If you want your wife to help you and support you, then you need to have a vision and share it with her. A woman can only be a helper to a man who knows where he is going and gives her room to build with him.

60 MARRIED MEN TIPS...

 MARRIED MEN...

1. Never have a close relationship with any Lady, single or Married By whatever name, spiritual Daughter, secretary, Colleague, Neighbor, House Maids, Wives of Friends.

2. Never get emotionally attached to any lady other than your own legally married wife.

3. Avoid Celebrating any Woman apart from your Wife, Mother and Daughter on Social Media. Don't send wrong signals to Ladies

4. Always bear in mind that the lady who cheaply offers herself to you will offer herself to anybody and fight you dirty tomorrow.

5. Never take advantage of any Lady who is under you, don't do it, you are in the place of trust, don't destroy your life.

6. Never give financial assistance to any lady at work, in the neighbourhood or anywhere without the consent and cooperation of your wife, this will safe your head in future.

7. Never meet with ladies in lonely places, parked Cars, street corners

8. Never allow your heart to lust after any lady, there is nothing they have that your wife does not have even better with security.

9. Don't eat from ladies who consistently give you cooked food for any reason Remember, food is another way to a man's heart.

10. Put on your Wedding ring always

11. Rebuke indecent dressing and don't tolerate anyone to dress sexily around you, if they see you are Comfortable with it they begin to come for you.

12. If any lady is giving you signs for sex, openly rebuke her. Say no, boldly and calmly

13. Never start any dirty and naughty discussion with any lady. You can't know how far this will take you, be careful carry yourself with dignity.

14. Don't hide any secret from your wife. Be totally open this safe your head.

15. Make your wife your best friend and flaunt her anywhere and anyhow. Put her picture as a screen saver on your Phone, Laptop and tablet.

16. Celebrate your wife's birthday and wedding anniversary lavishly on Social media and everywhere, this will send signals to Girls that you love your wife and not available for them.

17. Never hide your marital status, let them know that you are married.

18. Never use the word I love you for any Female apart from your Wife and Daughter. This can be misinterpreted

19. Always talk about your wife. It chases bad girls who want you away.

20, Your discussions about your Wife should be a positive one, never speak negatively about her or other Women.

21. If you are not enjoying your Marriage please do not share this with any Female, see a Counsellor

22. Cut all contacts with all your Exes and all you’ve had Sex with before Marriage if you don't do you may fall back together again destroying your Marriage and theirs.

23. Profess your love to your wife anywhere.

24. If any lady begins to come too close to you, kindly report to your wife with name, phone number and her details.

25. Be nice to female Colleagues, Church members, Neighbors etc but you must be strict and disciplined when you notice any bad move

26. Always remember that the enjoyment is just 8 Seconds, it cannot be more than that but its repercussion can last a lifetime and even eternity, please don't mortgage your life for a Maximum of Seconds of orgasm.

27. Avoid night parties: Partying encourages sexual immorality if you truly want to be faithful to avoid night Parties.

28. Avoid Alcohol. When you drink alcohol you look at your sense of decency with Women, please avoid Alcohol.

29. Remember sexually transmitted diseases. It's true that sexually transmitted is possible when you don't keep to your Wife, don't destroy your life because of a moment of pleasure.

30. Don't Think CONDOM uses Good CONDUCT: Condom can break, it cannot even protect you from the scandal, shame, reproach, broken trust and the judgement of God, good conduct is what you need, not Condom.

31. Always Remember your vows: you promised to keep to your wife on your wedding day, be a promise keeper, remember your Vow.

32. Avoid night Clubs: Night Clubs are not for Men that want to keep to their Marriage Vows avoid it.

33. No Flirty Jokes: Don't crack flirty jokes with any lady, don't do it.

34. No Hugs: Avoid hugging Women carelessly, don't do it, it's not a show of love, do that through a handshake, hug only your wife.

35. No Shoulder touch: Avoid touching Women on their Shoulder when talking to them. The shoulder is close to the breasts, Shoulder touch is also a sign of assurance of love, only your wife deserves that.

36. No private Meals: Avoid having private Lunch or dinner privately with any Lady apart from your Wife, eating together generates love and feelings, don't start the fire that will consume you.

37. No Car ride: Avoid giving private Car rides with Ladies, except in a group. Spending Hours with a Lady traffic can build affinity that can pull you down.

38. No Secret Chatting: No secret or flirty chat with any Lady.

39. No private Meeting: Never hold any meeting with any Lady that your wife must not know about

40. No Porn: Pornography can never satisfy you, but will destroy your ability to resist Sexual temptation and turn to your dirty secret and your addiction, keeping you busy without taking you anywhere.

41. No code on Phone: Don't put code on your phone to hide it from your wife, if there must be code, your wife must know it if you are a real and faithful man.

42. If you must think sexy think of your wife, avoid Lust and inordinate affection.

43. If you must look at your breasts look at your wife’s. She has the best breasts in the world.

44. If you must look at Bum your wife has it in abundance. Stop looking at the backside of any Lady, you much more than that.

45. Have an accountability Partner: Have somebody you can talk to if you feel tempted

46. Be careful with your Wife’s Friends, some of them want you, don't get too close, don't get too familiar, respect yourself.

47. Beware of your Wife’s House Maid, DONT SLEEP WITH HER!! Don't tolerate a sexy dress from her, no tying of towels around the house, no sleeping carelessly in the living room. If she is getting too hot for you let her go don't pretend, tell your wife.

48. Don't have any Lady’s Number on your phone that your wife does not know who she is

49. Stop Counselling Vulnerable Women about their Marriage or Sex life, you are not a Counsellor, you are not trained for that, you may put yourself in trouble.

50. If you want sex, go back home, get it from your wife.

51. Enjoy hugging your Wife, hold her hands play with her, be very close to her to keep your mind from straying.

52. Increase SDA in your Marriage: SDA is the Secret Display of Affection, use every opportunity to display affection to Your Wife in the secret when it's between just the two of you.

53. Increase FDA in your Marriage: FDA is Family Display Affection. Show love generously to your wife in the presence of your Children, Housemaid and People that live in your house, this will strengthen your Marriage.

54. Increase PDA in your Marriage: PDA is Public Display of Affection, display affection public don't be ashamed of your wife.

55. Date your Wife Regularly: Create time to go out with your Wife on a date, set time for it and grow together.

56. Break unbreakable Bond with your Wife.

57. Don't just be a Husband be a Lover Boy

58. Always count the Cost of Adultery: Lots of Men do look at the pleasure of illicit sex without counting the cost. Count the cost, this is much, Sexually transmitted diseases, Scandals, unwanted Baby, disappointments, satanic affliction, the judgement of God and lots. Count the cost, it's much, very much, outweighs 8 seconds of pleasure.

59. Be careful about your secretary and your Colleague at Work, they are not better than your wife, your wife is by far better than them, don't get too close to them, don't destroy your Marriage.

60. You want a better Bedroom? You want better Sex, you can get it in your Marriage.

27 TIPS OF BEING FAITHFUL.

27 TIPS OF BEING FAITHFUL...

1. Loving your spouse in public and in private

2. Cutting off an ex who is coming to confuse you or disrespect your spouse 

3. Not participating in sexual jokes at the work place that lead to blurred lines

4. Sexting only your spouse and if your spouse is not much of a texter, choosing not to use that as an excuse to send suggestive messages to another 

5. Avoiding to call other people of the opposite gender suggestive names that belong only to your spouse such as "Sweetheart", "Love", "Darling", "Baby"

6. Surrounding yourself with friends who encourage you to be faithful to your spouse and who can tell you off when you start to veer off

7. Looking away when you notice your eyes are desiring another person sexually. Do not feed lust 

8. Choosing not to take care of another person of the opposite gender financially in secret yet neglecting your spouse 

9. Telling off people who come at you to make sexual advances 

10. Making it known that you are married lest anyone thinks you are available 

11. Ignoring or blocking people who still want to flirt with you yet they know you are married 

12. Avoiding your body rubbing on another at the workplace, supermarket or social gatherings; this excitement leads to more longing for body rubbing

13. Bragging about your spouse to someone who is lying to you that they will treat you better than your spouse

14. Stopping the excitement of dressing up sexy to get the attention of a work colleague. This expectation of impressing a special someone will lead to an affair and distract you from impressing your spouse 

15. Avoiding habits such as drinking and excessive parting and activities that tempt you and put you in a compromising situations

16. Unfriending a friend who doesn't respect boundaries

17. Honouring your spouse even when your spouse doesn't know what you are doing or is far from you 

18. Avoiding pornography and masturbating to videos and photos online since this will train your eye to lust after multiple people 

19. Choosing not to send nude photos of yourself to someone who is not your spouse 

20. Choosing not to receive nude photos or videos of people who are trying to seduce you

21. Avoiding phone sex with someone not your spouse. If you phone sex or video call another to talk sexual stuff, your desire for that person will grow 

22. Choosing not to have lengthy intimate chats with another person not your spouse 

23. Choosing not to confide in another your naughty thoughts and sexual fantasies. These secrets belong only to your spouse

24. Choosing not to hold, caress, tightly hug, sensually massage or cuddle up a friend in the name of comfort. Physical intimacy belongs only to your spouse 

25. Avoiding naughty games such as strip poker, truth or dare or kissing games that might cheer you into dishonouring your spouse 

26. Avoiding the lie that you can make out with another person as long as you don't sleep with them

27. Choosing not to give another person more time and attention than you give to your spouse 

Remember: Faithfulness is not only about not having sexual intercourse with another; but also about honouring your spouse with your mind, eyes, ears, words, feelings, time, hands and body...

सपने देखना तथा उनसे प्राप्त होने वाले संभावित फल

 सपने देखना तथा उनसे प्राप्त होने वाले संभावित फल...

1- सांप दिखाई देना- धन लाभ

 2- नदी देखना- सौभाग्य में वृद्धि

3- नाच-गाना देखना- अशुभ समाचार मिलने के योग

4- नीलगाय देखना- भौतिक सुखों की प्राप्ति

5- नेवला देखना- शत्रुभय से मुक्ति

6- पगड़ी देखना- मान-सम्मान में वृद्धि

7- पूजा होते हुए देखना- किसी योजना का लाभ मिलना

8- फकीर को देखना- अत्यधिक शुभ फल

9- गाय का बछड़ा देखना- कोई अच्छी घटना होना

10- वसंत ऋतु देखना- सौभाग्य में वृद्धि

11- स्वयं की बहन को देखना- परिजनों में प्रेम बढऩा

12- बिल्वपत्र देखना- धन-धान्य में वृद्धि

13- भाई को देखना- नए मित्र बनना

14- भीख मांगना- धन हानि होना

15- शहद देखना- जीवन में अनुकूलता

16- स्वयं की मृत्यु देखना- भयंकर रोग से मुक्ति

17- रुद्राक्ष देखना- शुभ समाचार मिलना

18- पैसा दिखाई- देना धन लाभ

19- स्वर्ग देखना- भौतिक सुखों में वृद्धि

20- पत्नी को देखना- दांपत्य में प्रेम बढ़ना

21- स्वस्तिक दिखाई देना- धन लाभ होना

22- हथकड़ी दिखाई देना- भविष्य में भारी संकट

23- मां सरस्वती के दर्शन- बुद्धि में वृद्धि

24- कबूतर दिखाई देना- रोग से छुटकारा

25- कोयल देखना- उत्तम स्वास्थ्य की प्राप्ति

26- अजगर दिखाई देना- व्यापार में हानि

27- कौआ दिखाई देना- बुरी सूचना मिलना

28- छिपकली दिखाई देना- घर में चोरी होना

29- चिडिय़ा दिखाई देना- नौकरी में पदोन्नति

30- तोता दिखाई देना- सौभाग्य में वृद्धि

31- भोजन की थाली देखना- धनहानि के योग

32- इलाइची देखना- मान-सम्मान की प्राप्ति

33- खाली थाली देखना- धन प्राप्ति के योग

34- गुड़ खाते हुए देखना- अच्छा समय आने के संकेत

35- शेर दिखाई देना- शत्रुओं पर विजय

36- हाथी दिखाई देना- ऐेश्वर्य की प्राप्ति

37- कन्या को घर में आते देखना- मां लक्ष्मी की कृपा मिलना

38- सफेद बिल्ली देखना- धन की हानि

39- दूध देती भैंस देखना- उत्तम अन्न लाभ के योग

40- चोंच वाला पक्षी देखना- व्यवसाय में लाभ

41- स्वयं को दिवालिया घोषित करना- व्यवसाय चौपट होना

42- चिडिय़ा को रोते देखता- धन-संपत्ति नष्ट होना

43- चावल देखना- किसी से शत्रुता समाप्त होना

44- चांदी देखना- धन लाभ होना

45- दलदल देखना- चिंताएं बढऩा

46- कैंची देखना- घर में कलह होना

47- सुपारी देखना- रोग से मुक्ति

48- लाठी देखना- यश बढऩा

49- खाली बैलगाड़ी देखना- नुकसान होना

50- खेत में पके गेहूं देखना- धन लाभ होना 

51- किसी रिश्तेदार को देखना- उत्तम समय की शुरुआत

52- तारामंडल देखना- सौभाग्य की वृद्धि

53- ताश देखना- समस्या में वृद्धि

54- तीर दिखाई- देना लक्ष्य की ओर बढऩा

55- सूखी घास देखना- जीवन में समस्या

56- भगवान शिव को देखना- विपत्तियों का नाश

57- त्रिशूल देखना- शत्रुओं से मुक्ति

58- दंपत्ति को देखना- दांपत्य जीवन में अनुकूलता

59- शत्रु देखना- उत्तम धनलाभ

60- दूध देखना- आर्थिक उन्नति

61- धनवान व्यक्ति देखना- धन प्राप्ति के योग

62- दियासलाई जलाना- धन की प्राप्ति

63- सूखा जंगल देखना- परेशानी होना

64- मुर्दा देखना- बीमारी दूर होना

65- आभूषण देखना- कोई कार्य पूर्ण होना

66- जामुन खाना- कोई समस्या दूर होना

67- जुआ खेलना- व्यापार में लाभ

68- धन उधार देना- अत्यधिक धन की प्राप्ति  

69- चंद्रमा देखना- सम्मान मिलना

70- चील देखना- शत्रुओं से हानि

71- फल-फूल खाना- धन लाभ होना

72- सोना मिलना- धन हानि होना

73- शरीर का कोई अंग कटा हुआ देखना- किसी परिजन की मृत्यु के योग

74- कौआ देखना- किसी की मृत्यु का समाचार मिलना

75- धुआं देखना- व्यापार में हानि

76- चश्मा लगाना- ज्ञान में बढ़ोत्तरी

77- भूकंप देखना- संतान को कष्ट

78- रोटी खाना- धन लाभ और राजयोग

79- पेड़ से गिरता हुआ देखना किसी रोग से मृत्यु होना

80- श्मशान में शराब पीना- शीघ्र मृत्यु होना

81- रुई देखना- निरोग होने के योग

82- कुत्ता देखना- पुराने मित्र से मिलन

83- सफेद फूल देखना- किसी समस्या से छुटकारा

84- उल्लू देखना- धन हानि होना

85- सफेद सांप काटना- धन प्राप्ति

86- लाल फूल देखना- भाग्य चमकना

87- नदी का पानी पीना- सरकार से लाभ

88- धनुष पर प्रत्यंचा चढ़ाना- यश में वृद्धि व पदोन्नति

89- कोयला देखना- व्यर्थ विवाद में फंसना

90- जमीन पर बिस्तर लगाना- दीर्घायु और सुख में वृद्धि

91- घर बनाना- प्रसिद्धि मिलना

92- घोड़ा देखना- संकट दूर होना

93- घास का मैदान देखना- धन लाभ के योग

94- दीवार में कील ठोकना- किसी बुजुर्ग व्यक्ति से लाभ

95- दीवार देखना- सम्मान बढऩा

96- बाजार देखना- दरिद्रता दूर होना

97- मृत व्यक्ति को पुकारना- विपत्ति एवं दुख मिलना

98- मृत व्यक्ति से बात करना- मनचाही इच्छा पूरी होना

99- मोती देखना- पुत्री प्राप्ति

100- लोमड़ी देखना- किसी घनिष्ट व्यक्ति से धोखा मिलना

101- गुरु दिखाई देना- सफलता मिलना

 102- गोबर देखना- पशुओं के व्यापार में लाभ

103- देवी के दर्शन करना- रोग से मुक्ति

104- चाबुक दिखाई देना- झगड़ा होना

105- चुनरी दिखाई देना- सौभाग्य की प्राप्ति

106- छुरी दिखना- संकट से मुक्ति

107- बालक दिखाई देना- संतान की वृद्धि

108- बाढ़ देखना- व्यापार में हानि

109- जाल देखना- मुकद्में में हानि

110- जेब काटना- व्यापार में घाटा

111- चेक लिखकर देना- विरासत में धन मिलना 

112- कुएं में पानी देखना- धन लाभ

113- आकाश देखना- पुत्र प्राप्ति

114- अस्त्र-शस्त्र देखना- मुकद्में में हार

115- इंद्रधनुष देखना- उत्तम स्वास्थ्य

116- कब्रिस्तान देखना- समाज में प्रतिष्ठा

117- कमल का फूल देखना- रोग से छुटकारा

118- सुंदर स्त्री देखना- प्रेम में सफलता

119- चूड़ी देखना- सौभाग्य में वृद्धि

120- कुआं देखना- सम्मान बढऩा

121- अनार देखना- धन प्राप्ति के योग

122- गड़ा धन दिखाना- अचानक धन लाभ

123- सूखा अन्न खाना- परेशानी बढऩा

124- अर्थी देखना- बीमारी से छुटकारा

125- झरना देखना- दु:खों का अंत होना

126- बिजली गिरना- संकट में फंसना

127- चादर देखना- बदनामी के योग

128- जलता हुआ दीया देखना- आयु में वृद्धि

129- धूप देखना- पदोन्नति और धनलाभ

130- रत्न देखना- व्यय एवं दु:ख 131- चंदन देखना- शुभ समाचार मिलना

132- जटाधारी साधु देखना- अच्छे समय की शुरुआत

133- स्वयं की मां को देखना- सम्मान की प्राप्ति

134- फूलमाला दिखाई देना- निंदा होना

135- जुगनू देखना- बुरे समय की शुरुआत

136- टिड्डी दल देखना- व्यापार में हानि

137- डाकघर देखना- व्यापार में उन्नति

138- डॉक्टर को देखना- स्वास्थ्य संबंधी समस्या

139- ढोल दिखाई देना- किसी दुर्घटना की आशंका

140- मंदिर देखना- धार्मिक कार्य में सहयोग करना

141- तपस्वी दिखाई- देना दान करना

142- तर्पण करते हुए देखना- परिवार में किसी बुर्जुग की मृत्यु

143- डाकिया देखना- दूर के रिश्तेदार से मिलना

144- तमाचा मारना- शत्रु पर विजय

145- उत्सव मनाते हुए देखना- शोक होना

146- दवात दिखाई देना- धन आगमन

147- नक्शा देखना- किसी योजना में सफलता

148- नमक देखना- स्वास्थ्य में लाभ

149- कोर्ट-कचहरी देखना- विवाद में पडऩा

150- पगडंडी देखना- समस्याओं का निराकरण

151- सीना या आंख खुजाना- धन लाभ होगा